change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change

Change the Way You Look at Things — Change Our Perspective

Dr. Dyer tells us that if we want to improve something, we need to change how we perceive it.  Changing our perspective takes patience and practice.  Are you up to the challenge?

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” — Wayne W. Dyer

Dr. Dyer makes an excellent point to help us resolve one dilemma, causing friction in our modern society.  Most people want a better world.  But there is a difference of opinion about what “better” means.  One of the best ways to find common ground and solutions is to shift how we see the situation.  Can changing the way we look at things make a difference?

Why Change Our Perspective?

Why should we change our perspective first?  Because if we change our perception, we learn and grow.  That’s the foundation for making things better.   It starts with learning to change the way you look at things.

There is a polarization between religious superstition and scientific evidence.  The clash between science and religion is becoming more intense.  Religious extremists want to take us back to the 12th century, and science wants to move us to the 21st century.  How can we reconcile these two vastly different worldviews?

“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.” ― Maya Angelou, Wouldn’t Take Nothing for My Journey Now

Changing the Way You Look at Things

The first thing we need to change is our approach.  This approach doesn’t mean we should empathize and agree with people, especially if their position is harmful.  What we need to do is learn to set aside our emotions.  When we do this, we think more clearly, and then we can better understand how they came to their conclusions.

“The Golden Rule of Habit Change: You can’t extinguish a bad habit, you can only change it.” ― Charles Duhigg, The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business

“You can change your life if you really want to. You can improve it, make it better. And it all starts with changing the way you think.” — John C. Maxwell

So, we use the habitual aspect of the mind to build good habits instead of harmful ones.  That’s what we call a powerful mind hack.  And it works.  In a moment, we’ll discuss the four steps to do this.

But we don’t have to give up anything.  We need to expand our awareness to determine how and why someone thinks the way they do.   We may disagree with their opinion and actions.  The task is to understand why they believe the things they do.  Otherwise, the conflict of differing worldviews leads to frustration.

The Social Arena

People on both sides are not engaging in meaningful dialogue about global issues.  This lack of dialogue only leads to more polarization.  The next time you face this dilemma, reverse your focus.  Don’t start thinking of a rebuttal.  Instead, stop, listen, and think.  Ask questions about why they believe what they do.  Change the way you look at the issue, and you may change the way you feel about them.

Understanding why they have come to their conclusions will help you develop a new perspective.  When you engage them in this way, it calms their emotions and disarms their attack.   To do this, you need to overcome two things.  First, we must overcome our emotional response to them and the issue.  Second, we must also overcome the propaganda that bombards us.  Both are intertwined together, which makes it more challenging to negotiate.

The propaganda machine makes sure you hear the message they want to project.  If you learn to recognize what is happening, you can ignore it or minimize its effect.  We recommend using an “emotional check technique” to help maintain your emotional equilibrium.  If you can stay calm, then you will think more clearly.  You can spot the propaganda and sift out facts from the fiction when you think more clearly.

The idea here is not to change their minds but to get them to question their beliefs.  Don’t be surprised if this leads to a discussion about what they hate or makes them angry.  The source of these emotions drives all bias and prejudice.

Our Ego

The second thing we need to deal with is our ego.  Our personality likes to control what we think to maintain control.  We must understand our self-talk and remove harmful scripts if we see things differently.  The Enneagram of Personality is the best tool for finding the default self-talk scripts for your personality type.  Your personality isn’t a bad thing.  It’s a necessary tool of consciousness, but few people learn when to turn it off.

It may seem like a relatively simple strategy, but it’s hard to implement.  That’s because routines run our lives.  The autopilot mode makes things easier.  We don’t have to think consciously about what we need to do.  But patterns make it easy to slip into bad habits.  If we want to see things differently, we need to start with ourselves.

Today, bad habits come from the conveniences of our modern society.  The first is the hypnotic effect of being entertained.  When we are engaged, we lose ourselves, and we lose time.  It’s a waste of opportunities in life.  The second bad habit is filtering our social interaction through electronic media.

Tactics to Change the Way You Look at Things

Dr. Dyer (1) tells us to “change the way we look at things”  You can do this.  Changing the way you look at things only takes just four steps.  The first step is always the hardest one.  But trust me, you’ll soon find that it was worthwhile.

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

First ― Limit TV and Internet

Your mind needs space, time, and the opportunity to create habits.  When you do this, it will change the way you look at things and how you think.  The first step is creating space for new, healthy ideas.  So, most people can cut this time out of the social media they consume.

The goal is to limit TV, the internet, and social media to two (2) hours per day.  Yes.  It’s a hard step, but you’ll save, on average, about four (4) hours a day or twenty-eight (28) hours a week.  It will save you a lot of time that you can use to grow and develop your body, mind, and soul.

We are subject to so much programming and propaganda that it becomes addicting.  We get an adrenaline rush when we encounter something that triggers our emotions.  However, this “triggering” of emotion does nothing to change our perspective.  It often does the opposite by reinforcing the message of the propaganda.

“One must always be careful of books,” said Tessa, “and what is inside them, for words have the power to change us.”  ― Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Angel

Second — Find a Used Book Store

Now, with all the time you’ve saved, find a used bookstore, and buy the oldest and cheapest book in philosophy, religion, or history.   After you buy the book, don’t leave.

Next, please sit down and read it for at least an hour.  Use a pencil or yellow marker to make notes in the margins.  Think about what you’ve read.   You are expanding your awareness by creating new neuro-connections and sparking new ideas.

You’ll be surprised at how fast the time will go once you engage your mind in new ideas.  It will become a positive habit that will replace the negative one with the overuse of social media.

Third ― Talk to People

When it is safe, meet people face to face—otherwise, substitute “FaceTime” or Zoom.  Chat rooms will allow you to see people.  Sign up for free webinars.  Explore new interests and subjects.

If you are still in the used bookstore, ask other guests if they’ve read the book.  What did they think about it?  Tell them some interesting tidbits.
The goal is to meet new people and open your heart.  Use a book as the focal point; find out what other people read.   Find people from different backgrounds and points of view.  It will expand your social awareness.

Now that you know one another ask them their opinion on what you’ve read.  We also suggest making a follow-up meeting but don’t forget that step two’s primary purpose is finding someone new to talk with about the book.

Fourth ― Repeat the First Three Steps

The results will surprise you.  In less than a month, you’ll discover that connecting and doing research is more enjoyable than passive entertainment.  You’ll find your mind hungering to learn and share.  When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change you in response.  You may also discover other freethinkers.  There are more people like you than you think.

In Conclusion

Two steps seem too simple.  It’s three if you count repeating as a step, but the simple things in this exercise will change you.  You will see things differently, and that’s the point.


(1) Change Thoughts Change your Life, Dr. Wayne Dyer

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