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Learn How To Break The Patterns Of Thought And Behavior

“Negative thoughts are the source of problems.  So, we must learn how to break the patterns of thought and behavior.  Breaking the chain of unhealthy patterns gives us space for healthy thinking.” ― Guru Tua

Most people want the world to be a better place for everyone, not just a few. If we want a better world, we need to change our thinking.  To do this, we must overcome the critical mass of religious bias, commercialism, and greedy capitalism.

These are influential sources of negative programming that pollute our minds.  We need to learn how to break the patterns of thinking that hold us back.

“You can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created.” ― Albert Einstein

The Key to Reprogramming Self-Talk

Every positive change starts with the individual, which is why we promote inner work and self-development.  These tools help us make positive changes and expand awareness.  When awareness grows, so does our conscience.  We need more people with a healthy conscience.  Harmful actions begin as thoughts.  So, everyone can change the world within their sphere of influence, starting with changing themselves. (1)

“Hurt people hurt people. That’s how pain patterns get passed on, generation after generation after generation. Break the chain today. Meet anger with sympathy, contempt with compassion, cruelty with kindness. Greet grimaces with smiles. Forgive and forget about finding fault. Love is the weapon of the future.” ― Yehuda Berg

Patterns of thinking are habitual thought scripts, and because they are habits, they are hard to break.  The more we expose ourselves to advertising and propaganda, the more negative programming is solidified in our thinking.  So, one of the first things we need to do after identifying harmful thinking is identify the source.  Where did we get these negative ideas?  Minimizing and eliminating the source can be difficult because the sources are often part of the pattern of behavior.   Changing thought patterns can be uncomfortable, but the results are worth the effort.  (2)

“Cycles exist because they are excruciating to break. It takes an astronomical amount of pain and courage to disrupt a familiar pattern. Sometimes it seems easier to just keep running in the same familiar circles, rather than facing the fear of jumping and possibly not landing on your feet.” ― Colleen Hoover, It Ends with Us

Break The Patterns of Thought And Behavior

“When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.” — Tuli Kupferberg

To create that better world we want, we must change the way we think.  If we are to break old patterns of thought, we need to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy thoughts.  We need help to see these patterns because they are often deeply ingrained beliefs.  We don’t like to walk on yet alone dig up our sacred ground of beliefs.  They are hard to observe unless we make a conscious effort and use the proper techniques.  We cannot change what we cannot see.  (3)

These habitual patterns are significant, as they are the default settings of awareness.  As children, we fashion thought routines that become habitual.  Our parents and our culture also help to form these patterns.  These sources help to create the thought patterns and values of our worldview.  The quality of these depends upon the messages you receive.  Hopefully, this programming is positive and not harmful.

We are creatures born to explore. Exploring the unknown draws us to the Hero’s Journey, and it’s only natural for us to want to grow beyond the default settings.  Breaking old patterns of thought and behavior is the key to intellectual and spiritual growth.

“Either you must control your thoughts or the outside forces will control them and be warned that the outside forces usually consist of fears, worries, and doubts.” ― Maddy Malhotra, How to Build Self-Esteem and Be Confident: Overcome Fears, Break Habits, Be Successful and Happy

Personal and spiritual development gives us the perspective we need to make positive changes.  So, we need something to help us see them.  Once we see them, we have the power to change and move beyond them.  Here’s one exercise for changing thought patterns.

Reprogramming Self-Talk Starts with Observation

“The first step is learning to monitor your thoughts; to think about what you are thinking about.”  ― Neale Donald Walsch

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The following strategies are proven techniques to break the patterns and change your self-talk. Find a group or friend on the same mission and team up for support.  The process is only four steps, but that doesn’t mean it will be easy.  (4)

1) Identify or find the negative scripts
2) Replace the harmful scripts
3) Reinforce the positive scripts
4) Avoid the Source of Negative Programming

The mind naturally resists change.  So we must keep a focus on the goal.  If you are like most people, you will fall back into old patterns.  But, when you do, you will spot it and then take the proper action to correct it.  Be patient and gentle with yourself, but also be persistent, don’t give up.  This kind of inner work benefits from working with a group or a partner.

1) Identify the harmful thought scripts

Use your spiritual journal to help you spot trends.  You can do this by conducting some experiments with the following processes:

We recommend you use all three processes.  If you do, you’ll see patterns of thought and value.  Breaking old patterns of thought starts with finding them.  These patterns will include things like values, bias, and prejudice.  We don’t like to look at these.  We need to find the harmful thought scripts that keep these stereotypes in place.

Write the words and phrases you hear yourself repeating inside your head.  These are the words and phrases that reinforce and shape reality.  If you find these harmful scripts are coming from an outside source, remove them.  This programming comes from religious and political propaganda that is masquerading as news.

We hope you have the desire and courage to change those things which are harmful.  However, sometimes people don’t understand that their religious prejudice is unhealthy and destructive.  That is the first challenge to this exercise.

If you do decide to make some changes, you are ready to replace the negative with positive.

2) Replace the harmful scripts with positive ones

You can change your self-talk from negative to positive, affirming self-talk. Monitor your self-talk.  When you observe harmful or destructive thoughts, stop.   Instead, insert the positive words you WANT.   The key is learning to catch yourself when you begin negative self-talk.

Insert and language into your self-talk to give you the result you desire.  Write the words or phrases you want to use on sticky notes to see and remember the new expression.  You can stick them in your car, on the refrigerator door, everywhere.  Set up an hourly reminder on your smartphone with these desired replacement phrases.

Learn to spot the triggers that prompt this self-talk, especially if these words and phrases are negative.  What are the situations and emotions that cause negative self-talk?

3) Reinforce the desired change

When you catch yourself falling back into old patterns, stop yourself.  Everyone falls back into old habits because they are habitual scripts.  But, the more you become accustomed to this practice, the more you will be aware of your self-talk.

Positive scripts can help to break the patterns of negative thoughts, but you must be diligent.

When you finally see the words and the phrases of your self-talk,  then you can decide what you want to change.  If what you are saying to yourself is what you want more, reinforce it.  It if not, alter your self-talk.

To reinforce the change, use affirmations.  These are the thought scripts that are the heart of the law of attraction.  You can think of the right words, but your attitude is the fuel.  A negative mindset will negate your positive comments.  Don’t skip steps.  Follow the process. Use affirmations last.

For instance, use a repeating positive mantra, like my words shape my reality, and I am creating _____.

4) Avoid Negative Programming

One last but important point here, you must avoid the sources of the negative programming.  Otherwise, it will simply reinstall the old scripts.  Five minutes of negative programming can rewrite all of your hard work.

So, be mindful of your exposure.  Avoid anything that provides religious programming.  If that means avoiding or limiting conversations with friends, then that’s a decision you’ll need to come to grips with after some thought.  Breaking or saving a friendship with someone who supports the counterculture of far-right ideology is a difficult choice.

There are things you can do to expand your awareness and make yourself more resistant and resilient.  Several other technologies can expand awareness and change the way we think.  The ancient pioneers of spiritual exploration give us these tools to help us recognize how and what we believe.  They show us how to move beyond the boundaries of belief.

In Conclusion

Everyone needs to learn how to break the old patterns of thought and behavior.  We know Spring cleaning and decluttering are positive behaviors that give us space for the things we value.  It’s the same for the mind.  Take the time to do some Spring cleaning of the unhealthy thought scripts that are holding you back.

Find and remove the patterns contain unhealthy biases and prejudice.  You’ll be more inclined to do positive things.  Don’t wait another day.  Take steps to take your journey to a better level of health.  It will take some serious inner work, but the results are worth it for you and everyone that is in your sphere of influence.  Remember, breaking old patterns of thought is the key to making positive changes.


(1) Your Best Life: Managing Negative Thoughts—The Choice is Yours, National Laboratory of Medicine:

(2) What Research Says About Breaking the Negative Thought Cycle, Education Week:

(3) Positive thinking: Stop negative self-talk to reduce stress, The Mayo Clinic:

(4) Evidence for Transdiagnostic Repetitive Negative Thinking and Its Association with Rumination, Worry, and Depression and Anxiety Symptoms: A Commonality Analysis, the National Laboratory of Medicine:

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