Everyone has a vision of who they are, a complex aspect of our psyche we call our personal or individual truth. Some sages tell us that truth is more important than love. Come and see why we agree and why you should seek your truth first.
So, which should you seek first, personal or individual truth or love? Let’s see what this is all about.
Exactly What is Personal Truth?
The concept of a personal or individualized truth has been discussed for centuries. It is a notion that the truth of who we are varies from individual to individual. Our experiences, cultural background, and beliefs shape this kind of intrinsic truth.
The way we value people and the world is a reflection of our identity. Individual truth relates to our perception of subjective reality. Is our perception of reality, our individual truth, more important than love or other virtues? The answer varies from person to person.
Your truth is a subjective perception and understanding of reality. But this picture of reality isn’t stagnant; it is fluid and can change. Our beliefs and values can be changed. We can make a conscious, informed decision or fall prey to brainwashing tactics; either will change our perception.
The changing landscape of reality also shapes our view of the world and our identity. Aging changes everything and everyone we interact with. So, your personal or individual truth is a crucial aspect of your psyche that helps us make sense of the world around us.
So, when you ask the question, what is personal truth? You are asking for an explanation of two things, truth and how it affects you personally.
Truth is not as straightforward as you think; it means things that are true and correct and things we believe or accept as being truthful. These are often two different things. What someone believes does not always turn out to be truthful. Personal refers to the things which belong to or are part of a person’s nature.
You have to dig deep into the psyche to understand the attributes and qualities which are a part of our being, our soul. This means going beyond personality and instincts, beyond the programming of the mind by social and religious institutions.
The Complexity of Personal Truth or Love
The intricacies of a personal or individual truth can be challenging to understand, but it is essential to recognize its impact on our lives. Our personal or individual truth about reality is shaped by our past experiences, cultural background, upbringing, and belief system. These change every day. We think our identity and the world stay the same, but this is not the reality of the ever-changing universe.
We tend to cling to belief systems rather than ponder the changes. Many people have a skewed or tainted view of reality thanks to the prevalence of propaganda in the culture. All of these factors contribute to the distortion of truth.
Social interactions can be a source of nurturing or contamination. Social status and social media feed the ego and contaminate our psyche with false fear or praise.
There are many kinds of love which some believe is a divine substance. Most people associate love with romantic or sexual attraction, but it is much more. Love is both the motivation for self-sacrifice and self-indulgence, with many shades in between.
The Necessities of Personal Truth or Love
Our personal or individual truth is this aspect of the psyche that gives us a sense of identity, meaning, and purpose. When it is grounded in the transcendent, we are free to see reality more clearly. The purity of our untainted consciousness allows us to express ourselves honestly and authentically without fear of judgment or rejection. And it also helps us to understand our place in the hierarchy of relationships and the world.
Our truth is accepting who we are, which is essential for our personal growth and development. It helps us to make better decisions, to live more authentically, and to connect with others on a deeper level. Being grounded in our personal or individual truth helps us to overcome our fears and insecurities and to embrace our unique strengths and weaknesses. It is essential to our mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
Love as a necessity is the nurturing element of family and society. Without love, we have unrestrained greed.
Should You Seek Personal Truth or Love?
Your truth lives in the transcendent, and the transcendent is always available to your consciousness via meditation. This means the transcendent is a part of our individual truth. The transcendent truth is more important than love.
The transcendent is the doorway of consciousness, which connects your spirit or soul to your body. Without these, you cannot love. And the more you open your heart, the greater your access to the virtues within our nature. The key is opening the heart. Don’t limit your potential by staying where you are now. What is personal truth but the essence of the transcendent in all things?
“Some might say that looking inside of ourselves for spiritual truths is egocentric and selfish and that egolessness and selflessness lie in working for others in the world. But until we find our inner truth, our work in the world will always revolve around our ‘selves’. As long as we think about the world in terms of ‘self’ and ‘others’, our actions will be selfish. Our ‘self’ follows us wherever we go, so positive results will be limited.” — Tarthang Tulku
Your Personal Truth is More Important than Love
We are choice-makers. Almost everything we do involves a choice; sometimes, these simple choices can tremendously impact our lives. What do we do with our time?
On the surface, it would seem that seeking the truth is an analytical choice. And conversely, seeking love is a choice we make with the heart. But maybe these simple assumptions are incorrect.
Which is the correct path? Would it be better to seek a close, intimate relationship with one person on which to build our happiness and fulfillment? Or should you pursue a path of spiritual and self-development, or should you seek your “personal or individual truth? Is there a way we can do both, or do we need to choose one? Don’t think of it as either or; it is not truth or love, but love after finding yourself.
“Rather than love, than money, than faith, than fame, than fairness — give me truth.” — Emile Hirsch
If you pick personal or individual truth first, everything else, including love, will follow naturally. But, if you seek love before you know who you are, you will lose them both. Love is emotional energy. In other words, your truth is more important than love because the goal of love is to fulfill your truth.
How To Seek Personal Truth
When you accept yourself as you are now, that’s the point where you can finally begin to make positive changes. However, this isn’t easy. You need to commit to some actions. You need to ask questions and make an honest assessment of who you are.
We must learn to delve into and monitor our thought lives. Then you’ll need the courage to change and replace negative patterns with positive ones. There are methods for doing these crucial tasks, all inner work tools. The goal is twofold. You make yourself a better person to make the world a better place.
“You can choose to be courageous enough to explore and examine the new understanding, and how it aligns with your inner truth. Enlarge your belief system to include it.” — Neale Donald Walsch
Some people prefer to do this soul-searching on their own. You can walk your spiritual path, but you don’t have to be alone. Facing your inner dragons can be daunting, so don’t feel ashamed to seek proper help, especially if you carry a large amount of emotional trauma. Ignoring these kinds of issues keeps you “stuck” and unable to move forward. Deciding to keep going is a courageous step.
“Facing personal truths and purging yourself of addictions or manipulative habits requires strength, courage, humility, faith, and other qualities of a soul. Because you are not just changing yourself; you are changing your universe. Your soul is a compass. Change one coordinate in your spiritual compass and you change your entire life’s direction.” — Caroline Myss
Accepting yourself the way you are now gives you the power and the perspective to change. However, it is only the first step. Then you need to figure out what to change and how. We’ve seen people make good progress by starting small and working up to more significant challenges.
This voyage inward can start with the simple question what is personal truth? How do I define my truth?
Be wary of those who claim they can sell you access to your personal or individual truth secrets. No one else can show you what is in your mind and spirit. You cannot find it in any religion, holy text, or ideology. Also, beware of those who say they have discovered a fresh way to find this truth. In our experience, this turns out to be someone rebranding ancient spiritual technologies.
“Truth is not to be found outside. No teacher, no scripture can give it to you. It is inside you and if you wish to attain it, seek your own company. Be with yourself.” — Osho
If you use a meditation technique that allows you to reach the transcendent, it will open the heart. Regular use brings the powerful truth of the transcendent into your awareness. It is one way to open the door to the virtues of the spirit. You can tell when these values are present. It becomes easy to show friendliness, love, and compassion.
Accessing The Virtues of Your Spirit
Your personal or individual truth is the doorway to the virtues of the spirit. These virtues are the highest values of the human condition. You have these gifts just waiting to be opened. There are nine virtues that correspond to the nine personality types of the Enneagram. They are:
When you show how to live out these positive values in your life, everyone benefits, which is why seeking our “own” truth is so important. How do you do it?
“Should you seek personal truth or love? I say, seek your personal or inner truth first because it will open your heart to the virtues of the spirit. It will lead you to love. All the blessings and benefits of virtues of the spirit come from opening the profound nature of your inner truth is more important than love.” — Guru Tua
Once you open up these virtues of the spirit, important personal truths will become clear. And what you find is true may surprise you. You’ll likely find that your heart’s desire does not live in collecting things, nor does it come from achievements or material success. Instead, it’s finding an outlet for the virtues that are surfacing. It could take the shape of many positive things. Compassion for other people and our world is a natural outcome. How you use these virtues depends upon your sphere of influence.
“Do not cling to the symbols, but get to the inner truth!” — Meister Eckhart
Opportunities for Daily Inner Work
Everyday life events are potential gateways to the knowledge of our “personal truth.” Our truth is our soul or spirit lives in a place of peace and serenity. The universe provides an opportunity when something or someone frustrates or makes us angry. It’s telling us we have a unique event that we can use to open our hearts. When this negative emotion arises, stop and take a breath.
“Using awareness, personal responsibility, and inner work to review our unskillful or frightened reactions, we become more adept at turning habitual reactions to balanced responses. These moments are very exciting and gratifying.” — John Earle
For example, if someone says something that makes you angry, stop. Take a breath and listen to what someone is saying, and you’ll likely discover the words they speak trigger something associated with pain or fear in your worldview. Facing these fears gives you the opportunity for growth and inner healing.
Let your breathing make you calm. Just breathe and listen. Don’t let allow someone else’s words to make you angry. If you do this successfully, the virtues of spirit will come forward. Often, the other person will sense this peace and calmness.
If something triggers a negative emotion, it is an opportunity to discover what is happening. Ask yourself, what is behind your reaction? Are you responding to protect or defend something worthy?
You can determine if something is worth defending by how it affects others. If your reaction is to bolster the rights and health of everyone and everything, it is worthy. It is not worthy if your reaction is to support sectarian or discriminatory views.
Life’s frustrations give us moments to practice. Each of these events presents us with the gateway to the virtues of the spirit. Yes, as crazy as it seems, these are extraordinary events. Let’s say you are driving your car and begin to think it is invisible because it seems like every slow driver pulls out in front of you.
When you encounter frustrating situations like this, stop and breathe. Perhaps your first reaction is to think the person ahead of you is an idiot, but don’t jump to conclusions.
Consider all the possibilities. Perhaps the person driving the car ahead did not see you for some reason. Or, perhaps, they are going through a personal or emotional crisis and are not paying attention how they should. Maybe they are physically ill or disabled, or maybe they are just in a hurry. Send them some good vibes instead of cussing.
When should you seek your fears? Not during emotional turmoil. Wait until you have the time and place to investigate the issues.
In the end, you’ll find it is not a choice between personal truth or love but rather about choosing the right one to seek first. Seek your inner truth first. Love will follow. Don’t miss the opportunities to cultivate the virtues of the spirit. Learn to turn negative emotions into events of positive change.