What is better? Should you try to find personal truth or love? If you pick the right one first, the other will follow naturally, but you lose them if you choose the wrong one first. Find out how to make the right choice.
We are choice makers. Almost everything we do involves a choice, and sometimes these simple choices can have a tremendous impact on our lives. What do we do with our time?
On the surface, it would seem that seeking truth is an analytical choice. And, conversely, seeking love is a choice we make with the heart. But, maybe these simple assumptions are incorrect.
Which is the correct path? Would it be better to seek a close, intimate relationship with one person on which to build our happiness and fulfillment? Or should you pursue a path of spiritual and self-development to find our “personal truth”? Is there a way that we can we do both, or do we need to choose one of the two?
“Rather than love, than money, than faith, than fame, than fairness — give me truth.” — Emile Hirsch
Trust Those Who Seek The Truth
Your personal truth is the doorway to the virtues of the spirit. These virtues are the highest values of the human condition. There are nine of virtues which correspond to the nine personality types of the Enneagram. They are:
When you show how to live out these positive values in your own life, then everyone benefits, which is why seeking our “own” truth is so important. How do you do it?
“Should you seek personal truth or love? I say, seek your personal or inner truth first because it will open your heart to the virtues of the spirit. It will lead you to love. All the blessings and benefits of virtues of the spirit come from opening the profound nature of your inner truth.” — Guru Tua
Once you open up these virtues of the spirit, several magnificent things happen, and that is when important personal truths will become clear. And what you find is true may surprise you. You’ll likely find that your heart’s desire does not live in collecting things, nor does it come from achievements or material success. Instead, it’s finding an outlet for the virtues that are surfacing. It could take the shape of many positive things. Compassion for other people and our world is a natural outcome. How you use these virtues depends upon your sphere of influence.
“Do not cling to the symbols, but get to the inner truth!” — Meister Eckhart
Should You Seek Personal Truth or Love?
Your personal truth lives in the transcendent, and the transcendent is always available to your consciousness via the tool of meditation. The transcendent is the doorway of consciousness, which connects your spirit or Soul to your body. And the more you open your heart, the greater your access to the virtues within our nature. The key is opening the heart. Don’t limit your potential by staying where you are now.
“Some might say that looking inside of ourselves for spiritual truths is egocentric and selfish and that egolessness and selflessness lie in working for others in the world. But until we find our inner truth, our work in the world will always revolve around our ‘selves’. As long as we think about the world in terms of ‘self’ and ‘others’, our actions will be selfish. Our ‘self’ follows us wherever we go, so positive results will be limited.” — Tarthang Tulku
Learning to Accept Yourself the Way You Are
When you accept yourself as you are now, that’s the point where you can finally begin to make positive changes. However, this isn’t easy.
We must learn to delve into and monitor our thought life. Then you’ll need the courage to change negative patterns and replace them with positive ones. There are methods for doing these crucial tasks, which are all part of inner work tools. The goal is twofold. You make yourself a better person, and so you can make the world a better place.
“You can choose to be courageous enough to explore and examine the new understanding, and how it aligns with your inner truth. Enlarge your belief system to include it.” — Neale Donald Walsch
Some people prefer to do this soul-searching on their own. You can walk your own spiritual path, but you don’t have to be alone. Facing your inner dragons can be daunting, so don’t feel ashamed to seek proper help, especially if you carry a large amount of emotional trauma. Ignoring these kinds of issues keeps you “stuck” and unable to move forward. Deciding to keep going is a courageous step.
“Facing personal truths and purging yourself of addictions or manipulative habits requires strength, courage, humility, faith, and other qualities of a soul. Because you are not just changing yourself; you are changing your universe. Your soul is a compass. Change one coordinate in your spiritual compass and you change your entire life’s direction.” — Caroline Myss
When you accept yourself just the way you are now, it gives you the power and the perspective to change. However, it is only the first step. Then it you need to figure out what to change and how. We’ve seen people make good progress by starting small and working up to more significant challenges.
One point of advice, be wary of those who claim they can sell you access to the secrets of your “personal truth.” We cannot find this truth in any book or affiliation with any belief system. You cannot find it in any religion, holy text, or ideology. Also, beware of those who say they have discovered a fresh way to this truth. In our experience, this turns out to be someone rebranding the ancient spiritual technologies.
“Truth is not to be found outside. No teacher, no scripture can give it to you. It is inside you and if you wish to attain it, seek your own company. Be with yourself.” — Osho
If you use a meditation technique which allows you to reach the transcendent will open the heart. Regular use brings the personal truth of the transcendent into your awareness. This is one way to open the door to the virtues of the spirit. You can tell when these values are present. It becomes easy to show friendliness, love, and compassion.
There are several ancient tools you can use to help you find your “personal truth.” We categorize them into four groups.
The nice thing about these methods is that anyone can use them. You don’t need to join a religion or organization to use them. You’ll find those that don’t require personal instruction here on this website. We use the analogy of baking cake. If you can follow the steps of a recipe, you get a delicious cake. It’s the same with these techniques.
Opportunities for Daily Inner Work
Everyday life events are potential gateways to the knowledge of our “personal truth.” Our truth is our Soul or spirit lives in a place of peace and serenity. When something or someone frustrates or makes us angry, this is the Universe providing an opportunity. It’s telling us we have a unique event that we can use to open our hearts. When this negative emotion arises, stop and take a breath.
“Using awareness, personal responsibility, and inner work to review our unskillful or frightened reactions, we become more adept at turning habitual reactions to balanced responses. These moments are very exciting and gratifying.” — John Earle
For example, if someone says something that makes you angry, stop. Take a breath and listen to what someone is saying, and you’ll likely discover the words they speak trigger something associated with pain or fear in your worldview. Facing these fears gives you the opportunity for growth and inner healing.
Let your breathing make you calm. Just breathe and listen. Don’t let allow someone else’s words to make you angry. If you do this successfully, the virtues of spirit will come forward. Often, the other person will sense this peace and calmness.
If something which triggers a negative emotion, it as an opportunity to find out what is going on. Ask yourself, what is behind your reaction? Are you responding to protect or defend something worthy?
You can find out if something is worthy to defend by how it affects others. If your reaction is to bolster the rights and health of everyone and everything, it is worthy. If your reaction is to support sectarian or discriminatory views, it is not worthy.
Life’s frustrations give us moments to practice. Each of these events presents us with the gateway to the virtues of the spirit. Yes, as crazy as it seems, these are extraordinary events. Let’s say you are driving your car, and you begin to think your car is invisible because it seems like every slow driver pulls out in front of you.
When you encounter frustrating situations like this, stop and breathe. Perhaps your first reaction is to think the person ahead of you is an idiot, but don’t jump to conclusions.
Consider all the possibilities. Perhaps the person driving the car ahead of you did not see you for some reason. Or, perhaps they are going through a personal or emotional crisis and are not paying attention the way that they should. Maybe they are physically ill or disabled, or maybe they are just in a hurry. Send them some good vibes instead of cussing.
When should you seek your fears? Not during emotional turmoil. Wait until you have the time and place to investigate the issues.
In the end, you’ll find it is not a choice between personal truth or love, but rather about choosing the right one to seek first. Seek your inner truth first. Love will follow. Don’t miss the opportunities to cultivate the virtues of the spirit. Learn to turn negative emotions into events of positive change.