Should you seek personal truth or love? If you pick the right one first, the other will follow naturally, but you lose them if you choose the wrong one first. Find out how to make the right choice.
We are choice makers. Almost everything we do involves a choice. Sometimes simple decisions can have a tremendous impact. What do we do with our time?
On the surface, seeking the spiritual path, our spiritual truth is an analytical choice. And, conversely seeking love is a choice we make with the heart. But, maybe these simple assumptions are incorrect.
Should you seek a relationship on which to build happiness and fulfillment? Or, should you pursue a path of spiritual and self-development to find our “personal truth”? Can we do both, or do we need to choose between the two?
“Rather than love, than money, than faith, than fame, than fairness – give me truth.” — Emile Hirsch
Trust Those Who Seek The Truth
Your personal or individual truth is the gateway to the virtues of the spirit. These are gratitude, joyfulness, happiness, love, thankfulness, blissfulness, appreciation, mindfulness, and serenity. These are the higher values of the human state. When these positive values shine, everyone and everything benefits. That’s why seeking our “own” truth is so important.
“Should you seek personal truth or love? I say, seek your personal or inner truth. For all the virtues of the spirit come from opening the profound nature of your inner truth.” — Guru Tua
Once you open up these virtues of the spirit, several magnificent things happen. Important personal truths will become clear. And what you find is true may surprise you. You’ll likely find that your heart’s desire does not live in collecting things. Nor does it come from achievements or material success. Instead, it’s finding an outlet for the virtues that are surfacing. It could take the shape of many positive things. Compassion for other people and our world is a natural outcome. How you use these virtues depends upon your sphere of influence.
“Do not cling to the symbols, but get to the inner truth!” — Meister Eckhart
Should You Seek Personal Truth or Love?
Truth is always available; it is the thread of consciousness linking you to the transcendent. And the transcendent is the flame of consciousness living in your heart. It connects your spirit or Soul to your body. The more you open your heart, the greater your access to the virtues within our nature. The key is opening the heart. Don’t limit your potential by staying where you are now.
“Some might say that looking inside of ourselves for spiritual truths is egocentric and selfish and that egolessness and selflessness lie in working for others in the world. But until we find our inner truth, our work in the world will always revolve around our ‘selves’. As long as we think about the world in terms of ‘self’ and ‘others’, our actions will be selfish. Our ‘self’ follows us wherever we go, so positive results will be limited.” — Tarthang Tulku
Learning to Accept Yourself the Way You Are
When you accept yourself as you are now, that’s the point where you can finally begin to make positive changes. However, this isn’t easy.
We must learn to delve into and monitor our thought life. Then, you’ll need the courage to change negative patterns and replace them with positive ones. There are methods for doing these crucial tasks, which are all part of inner work tools. The goal is twofold. You make yourself a better person, and so you can make the world a better place.
“You can choose to be courageous enough to explore and examine the new understanding, and, it aligns with your inner truth and knowing, to enlarge your belief system to include it.” — Neale Donald Walsch
Some people can do this soul-searching task by themselves. You can walk your spiritual journey by yourself, but you don’t have to be alone. Facing your inner dragons can be daunting. So, don’t feel ashamed to seek proper help, especially if you carry a large amount of emotional trauma. Ignoring these kinds of issues keeps you “stuck” and unable to move forward. Deciding to keep going is a courageous step.
“Facing personal truths and purging yourself of addictions or manipulative habits require strength, courage, humility, faith, and other qualities of a soul with stamina because you are not just changing yourself; you are changing your universe. Your soul is a compass. Change one coordinate in your spiritual compass and you change your entire life’s direction.” — Caroline Myss
When you accept yourself the way you are, it gives you the power to change. However, it is only the first step. Then it would help if you decided what and how you will go about making the changes. We’ve seen people make good progress by starting small and working up to more significant challenges.
One point of advice, be wary of those who claim they have the secret to your “personal truth.” We cannot find this truth in any book or affiliation with any belief system. You cannot find it in any religion, holy text, or ideology. Also, beware of those who say they have discovered a fresh way to this truth. In our experience, this turns out to be someone rebranding the ancient spiritual technologies.
“Truth is not to be found outside. No teacher, no scripture can give it to you. It is inside you and if you wish to attain it, seek your own company. Be with yourself.” — Osho
Regular meditation opens the heart if you practice a form that embraces pure consciousness. There is only awareness in the state of pure consciousness – no thoughts. Regular meditation brings this personal truth into your waking and dreaming consciousness. When you do this, then the virtues of the spirit can flow in your life. Showing love, compassion, friendliness, respect, and understanding will be natural and effortless. Many ancient spiritual technologies can open up your awareness, making access possible.
There are several ancient tools you can use to help you find your “personal truth.” We categorize them into four groups.
The nice thing about these methods is that anyone can use them. You don’t need to join a religion or organization to use them. You’ll find those that don’t require personal instruction here on this website. We use the analogy of baking cake. If you can follow the steps of a recipe, you get a delicious cake. It’s the same with these techniques.
Opportunities for Daily Inner Work
Everyday life events are potential gateways to the knowledge of our “personal truth.” Our truth is our Soul or spirit lives in a place of peace and serenity. When something or someone frustrates or makes us angry, this is the Universe providing an opportunity. It’s telling us we have a unique event that we can use to open our hearts. When this negative emotion arises, stop and take a breath.
“Using awareness, personal responsibility, and inner work to review our unskillful or frightened reactions, we become more adept at turning habitual reactions to balanced responses. These moments are very exciting and gratifying.” — John Earle
For example, if someone says something that makes you angry, stop. Take a breath and listen to what someone is saying, and you’ll likely discover the words they speak trigger something associated with pain or fear in your worldview. Facing these fears gives you the opportunity for growth and inner healing.
Let your breathing make you calm. Just breathe and listen. Don’t let allow someone else’s words to make you angry. If you do this successfully, the virtues of spirit will come forward. Often the other person will sense this peace and calmness.
This encounter will lead you to investigate whether your opinion or position protects something worthy or unworthy of your reaction. You determine what is “worthy” to determine if your situation is healthy for yourself, everyone, and everything. If your opinion doesn’t support a positive, inclusive, and non-discriminatory philosophy, then it is unworthy of your anger.
Life’s frustrations give us moments to practice. Each of these events presents us with the gateway to the virtues of the spirit. Yes, as crazy as it seems, these are extraordinary events. Let’s say you are driving your car. And, you probably think your care is invisible. That’s because it seems like every slow driver is pulling out in front of you.
When you realize your frustration, stop, and breathe. Don’t automatically think the person ahead of you is an idiot. Ask yourself about the possibilities of their situation. Perhaps they are emotionally distraught over something and aren’t paying attention. Maybe they are physically ill or disabled. Send them some good vibes instead of cussing.
When should you seek out your fears? Not in the midst of emotional turmoil. Wait until you have the time and place to investigate the issues.
It’s not a choice between personal truth or love. Seek your inner truth first. Love will follow. Don’t miss the opportunities to cultivate the virtues of the spirit. Learn to turn negative emotions into events of positive change.
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