Does Life Happen for You Or is Life Happening To You

Does Life Happen for You? ― Or is Life Happening To You?

The difference between “for” you and “to” you is significant.  It’s the key to understanding whether you view your life from the perspective of a victor or a victim. The right perspective can help you survive and thrive.

It doesn’t matter if you believe your life results from fate, random chaos, or being guided by divine intervention. The general way you “believe” life is unfolding is key to walking in anticipation of curses or blessings.  When you have a positive attitude, believe life happens for you. You have the perspective to see and attract the good while fostering strength to learn the lessons when things don’t go your way.

Does Life Happen For You?

If you believe our universe is a positive place, chances are you have either a survivor or a victor.  That means, no matter what happens, you find the lesson. You learn from things and use your experience to make things better.   If you succeed, you learn how you got there and how to handle the victory.  If you failed, you learn the lesson and how not to do it again.

You will also become more aware of synchronistic events and omens.  It will feel like the Universe has your back. What do you think? Does life happen for you?

Is Life Happening to You?

If you believe this is how life is and you exist to get knocked around, then chances are you have a victim mentality.  It’s more than just a pessimistic attitude, and you try to prove life is out to get you.

There are many good reasons to transition from victim to survivor.  But reasons are not enough.  You need to know how to change your thinking.  Otherwise, you will stay stuck with the mantra, life is always happening to me, and it’s terrible.

Link to the law of Attraction

One of the overlooked keys to the law of attraction is your attitude toward life.  You can say a million affirmations, but they won’t work.  If you perceive yourself as a victim of life and not a victor in life, affirmations will be ineffective.  You cannot use affirmations to cover up negative programming. This will only reinforce the mindset of a victim.  Is life happening to you? If so, this is the mindset of the victim.

Yes, even if you attract great things and situations, you can miss them because you see yourself as a victim of life.  This negates much of your positive thought and mantra.  It’s as if you are trying to “overcome” the fabric of life by seeking things.  Study the operation of the laws of attraction. An abundant life isn’t about monetary wealth. It’s about always being grateful for your current state.

Abundance is the attitude you have towards your life. Think about that for a moment, and you’ll understand that living a fulfilling, abundant life is about your attitude, not about what you have. It’s your about life itself, not the things or situations.

Remember that your words shape reality.  This includes your self-talk. Your experience is life is happening to you as a curse. Actually, many of the things you receive in life are because you expressed permission and invitation.  Not everything comes by invitation, but many things do.

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Life happening to you?

So, the bottom line here, you need to change your philosophy of life. If life is not happening for you, you need to change your goal.  Your goal should be to see life happen FOR you.  To make life work for us, we must first acknowledge our current state.

Gratitude is the next key.  Find things to be grateful for.  Even during turmoil, but grateful for the lessons.  When you can reach this point, then all the affirmations, mantras, and sutras will manifest in your life.  So, how do you accomplish this leap from “life happening to you to life happening for you?”

You’ll need to learn how to see the bright side of things.  Expect good things.  See the Universe as operating on your behalf, especially when things aren’t going your way.  The Universe and your mind respond to persistence.  Keep asking yourself the question, does life happen for you?

This doesn’t mean being fake, nor does it mean ignoring losses and sadness.  It means learning to shift your perspective to see them as experiments and learning opportunities.  This helps to shift your perspective from victim to victor. Here are three tips to change your perspective.

1) ask yourself what the lesson you need to learn.  Do this, especially when in uncomfortable or negative situations. Be grateful for the experiences of life.

2) if you are using affirmations, start them all with the mantra “everything is happening for me!”

3) practice as many spiritual technologies as possible. These processes will support your change in perspective.

Spiritual Technologies

Spiritual technologies are tools for developing and exploring consciousness.  They are processes that can alter, change, or expand our awareness.  Some of these methods open doorways to higher states of consciousness.

These processes come from eons of research by cultures around the world.  We use the term spiritual exploration to describe these powerful methods.

We select the best of these ancient methods for our blended learning process. These processes are time-tested by generations of use, and they stand up to the rigorous tests of science.  Several of these methods produce measurable changes in our physiology.  These physiological markers differ from normal waking, sleeping, and dreaming states.

Spiritual exploration is not about faith or belief in a religion.  They are processes that anyone can use.  All you do is follow a process.  We like to think of it just like baking a cake. When you want to bake a delicious cake, you follow a recipe. If you use the right ingredients and follow the directions, you get something delicious.  The processes of spiritual exploration are formulas or ingredients for exploring consciousness.

There are many ways to list these methods. We divide these tools into four major categories:

      • Analytical Tools
      • Meditation
      • Awareness Expansion Tools
      • Modalities for Healing

Analytical Tools

The study of spiritual things seems like an odd place to find analytical tools, but these analytical processes are vital to our spiritual quest.  Their use enhances our ability to use common sense and logic.

These tools help us think more clearly and make better decisions, which helps us avoid many of our path’s common obstacles. This group’s primary tools are Logical Reasoning, Comparative Analysis, and The Enneagram of Personality.

Logical Reasoning

The study of logic is the first tool we use in our group practice, but these methods help anyone seeking the truth. We encourage our participants to create a reminder on their smartphone to review these tools every month.  This keeps them fresh in our minds, and that’s when they become useful in spotting ploys and deception.

We use a set of three related tools.  The first tool is Logical reasoning, which summarizes the basic use of logic in language.  It shows how people misuse logic to sell us ideas and beliefs. Next is spotting logical fallacies. This module provides practical examples of the most common logical fallacies. The last module, the logical axioms, ties everything together by contrasting how science and mythology differ in their approaches to presenting the truth.

Comparative Analysis

Comparative Analysis is a systematic approach to comparative religious study based on the scientific model.  It is a method of comparing ideas and beliefs from different worldviews, and it is another tool we recommend for the new spiritual explorer.

This process introduces the challenge of comparing their beliefs to other worldviews.  We incorporate the use of emotional checks with this process to maintain our emotional equilibrium.  This helps us think more clearly by reducing interference from our emotions.

Above all, the use of logical reasoning and comparative analysis will sharpen your ability to discern fact from fiction.  So, these aren’t just for research.  You’ll find a use for these tools every day.  Besides their use in religion, politics, they are also helpful with TV and Radio newscasts.

The Enneagram of Personality

The Enneagram of Personality is a cognitive science tool that helps us understand the mechanisms of Ego, personality, and instinct.  The best authors and researchers write in easily understandable language so the layperson can understand it, while it is deep enough for any clinician.  This makes it a powerful system available to almost everyone.

You will find modern psychology and the Enneagram share many of the same concepts and authors. Borrowing and then building on the work of others is a common practice. For instance, Jungian psychology parallels the structure of the Enneagram.  It has nine processes of consciousness.

The core of the Enneagram Personality Profile is a series of questionnaires.  If you provide honest answers, you will get an accurate personality profile. The scientific method of testing verifies the accuracy of this tool.  The system goes beyond identification into deeper thought processes and beliefs.  It integrates spiritual and psychological understanding.  It will help you understand the source of your personal power.


When you say spiritual practice, many people think of meditation.  Seated and moving forms of meditation are the centerpiece of spiritual exploration.  The practice of meditation is now common knowledge.  Both seated and moving meditation bring many health and wellness benefits.

Seated Meditation

Seated meditation is the heart of many spiritual practices.  Meditation is a range of mental tools for exploring consciousness.  It has everything from Mindfulness Meditation through Japa or Transcendental Meditation (TM).  And also includes more advanced practices like the Siddhis of Patanjali.

Moving Meditation

Moving meditation is an action with a heightened level of awareness.  This involves a high level of mind-body coordination and skill.   This modality improves mind and body connection.  In turn, this has a  positive effect on our health and wellness.  This progression includes energy collection modalities like Qigong and Tai Chi.  It also includes Forest Bathing and grounding techniques, like Tree Grounding and Sun Gazing.

Awareness Expansion Tools

This category has a diverse mix of tools dealing with awareness and perception.  This group includes the Shamanic Journey or Guided Meditation, lucid dreaming, third-eye awakening exercises, and techniques to improve memory.

Another important tool is the spiritual journal or book of shadows.  This is your best coach.  It also includes exercises like automatic writing.  You could list these tools among some groups. However, we like to list them separately because of their importance to awareness.

Shamanic Journey

The Shamanic Journey is probably man’s first spiritual technology.  This traditional method is at the core of many indigenous cultures.  It serves as evidence of the historical importance of the inner quest.

There are many variations on this theme, but essentially the same formula.  Rhythm is a key element that regulates heart rate and breathing.  Then the mind projects an inner world providing the lucid journey.

A Shaman is a person who guides people through this journey in the spirit world.   However, you can take this inward journey by yourself. This tool for changing awareness uses a range of seated and moving forms.

This is one of the ancient technologies that people have tried to rename or rebrand.  They do this to make the Shamanic Journey more marketable.  So, some people know it as guided meditation or creative visualization.

Modalities for Healing

The last group is healing practices.  This group includes a diverse set of tools such as Pe Jet, which comes from Indonesia, and Reiki and Shiatsu come from Japan.  Vedic medicine is also available, along with other traditional healing forms. Self-care is a vital part of this group.  Our overall health and wellness affect every aspect of life.

Using any healing method is a natural outlet for our positive energy. Many people come to the healing arts as a secondary interest.  They find it an enjoyable way of giving back and helping others.

In Conclusion

Think of living as a great spiritual experiment.  There are some interesting rules.  If you don’t know what they are, then follow this link. Does life happen for you? ― Or is life happening to you?  Both can be equally true.  One has better benefits, and you get to choose.

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(1) Joseph Campbell & Joseph Campbell’s book The Hero’s Journey, Wikipedia

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