This technique is a powerful tool for self-discovery. Every serious explorer needs this for their spiritual toolbox. See how you can use it to enhance several spiritual exploration tools.
The Repetitive Question Exercise
The repeating question exercise is a powerful technique of personal discovery. It is a versatile technique for inner work. Clinicians use this exercise in regression therapy. We use it in many processes of spiritual exploration. You’ll find used with in the following methods:
Repetitive questioning gets below our superficial automatic responses. It drills down to the core thinking patterns, values, and beliefs. It enables us to get through the Ego filters and our cultural programming. Both of these mechanisms create pre-programmed responses to perception. Repetitive questioning helps us get through these filters.
This process works best with two people. One person repeatedly asks the same question, giving the other time to provide a different answer. When we give the mind the same question continually, it forces us to search for authentic answers.
You can also do this exercise on your own. In either case, we recommend you use a timer to stop the activity at 5 minutes. Then take the time to record your answers in your spiritual journal. It’s essential to record your discoveries. They will provide you critical clues to any roadblocks you may have. It also helps you to see your incremental growth.
The Repeating Question Inner Work Technique
The repetitive question technique is simple. With a partner, you sit facing each other. Your partner asks, and you answer. You jot down a few keywords to help you remember your answer. Then your partner asks again.
The person asking the questions needs to be patient and wait for the answer. They also need to be non-judgemental. Remaining as emotionally neutral as possible can be difficult because we are programmed to judge. Try to be neutral with body language. Don’t cross arms or legs. Do not encourage or discourage any answer. It is better not to respond at all. Just wait for the other person to document anything, then repeat the question.
One question for 5 minutes seems like a long time, but time goes by quickly once you get started. When you begin, you’ll give superficial answers. As you keep asking the same question, you will discover core truths. It will pull up some interesting data about your memories and the emotions attached to them.
The basic ground rules for this exercise are:
- Be patient.
- Remain non-judgmental and maintain total confidentiality.
- Give honest answers.
- Don’t say things you want the other person to hear.
- It’s best to work with someone you don’t know well.
- Each time they give you the question, think of a new answer. Take your time.
When you use the repeating question on your own, set a timer, be honest. Repeat the question aloud, don’t just repeat it in your head. You will probably need to do this exercise for at least 5 minutes to get to anything meaningful.
It’s essential to realize this exercise can bring up repressed memories and feelings. We recommend using the emotional check process with this exercise. It is vital to maintain a calm non-emotional state of mind. This technique is a profound inner work tool for personal discovery. Sometimes it can become emotionally unsettling.
Some people find that it also yields better results if you’ve done this exercise a few times. The more you do it, the easier it is to get past your programmed answers.
Examples of Repeating Questions
Here is the list of repeating questions we recommend for identifying significant memories. You can tailor this list to fit any psychological or spiritual topic.
- Tell me about a memory that always makes you happy.
- Tell me about a memory that always makes you sad.
- What is the oldest memory you have, how does it make you feel?
- Tell me about a memory you associate with hate.
- Tell me about a memory you associate with love.
- What are the memories of childhood that bring you the most joy?
- Tell me about a memory you associate with nature.
- Tell me about a memory you associate with family.
- What memories bring up the emotion of fear?
Inner work involves personal discovery, and the repeating question exercise or (repetitive question process) is a powerful technique to assist in this quest. So use it with proper care. If you are doing it on your own, try it for 5 minutes and wait. Sometimes this technique will stir up powerful emotions. Be sure to be familiar with the emotional checking process so you can deal with things positively.
Are you interested in spiritual exploration? Check out the blended learning process at the core of our teaching process. We offer this curriculum through our individually tailored virtual learning academy and our traditional face-to-face sessions. It reflects what Joseph Campbell called the Hero’s Journey (1). Our learning options include both face-to-face and virtual learning sessions.
(1) Joseph Campbell & Joseph Campbell’s book The Hero’s Journey, Wikipedia