Each of us is a collection of flaws. We are made exquisitely defective and perfect in our own way. And this makes each of us unique. That is why we are so amazing!
Our families do the best they can from their level of consciousness. Consequently, no one has a perfect childhood. So, most people are dysfunctional in some way. As such, we are prone to act out of fear, anger, or any number of emotions to our determent. As a result, we often find ourselves ill-equipped. And, so we are not prepared to handle the many challenges of life. What can we do?
I, myself, am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.
― Augusten Burroughs
I don’t know a perfect person. I only know flawed people who are still worth loving.
― John Green
Even those considered beautiful, smart, genius, strong, talented, exceptional, or extraordinary are flawed. And, although they may reach perfection or excellence, it is fleeting and temporary.
Everyone eventually uncovers some deficiency, fault, or blemish. Sorry to say it, but our bodies are all designed to end in total system failure. But perhaps this is another lesson in the experiment of living? So, we are perfectly flawed and exquisitely defective. That’s the way it was intended.
We may be defective, yet, somehow we can experience blissful joy, happiness, and love. We are capable of supreme acts of compassion, kindness, and friendliness. Even with our poorly designed broken-down apparatus, we can fathom the depths of pure consciousness.
Thus, we are capable of embracing the absolute pure consciousness from which we came and to which we will go. We can become warriors of light confronting injustice and prejudice with compassion.
Your treasure – your perfection – is within you already. But to claim it, you must leave the busy commotion of the mind and abandon the desires of the ego and enter into the silence of the heart. — Elizabeth Gilbert
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
― Margaret Wolfe Hungerford
The dominant cultural narratives don’t want you to know you are already perfect. Otherwise, they could not sell you things and ideas you don’t want. So, we must learn to see ourselves as Beings of light. We must hold on to the beauty that is our essence, not the expression of our exterior. We must learn to shut out the opinions of the culture.
It is our imperfections that make us unique and wonderful. Accepting ourselves as we are is the key to freedom from negative social standards. So, we must learn to see ourselves in our mind’s eye. Repeat the mantra, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Do not look at yourself through the eyes of a demented culture.
Embracing Our Nature
What we need to do is learn to embrace our nature. We need to embrace the contrasting elements of life. We may be perfectly flawed, but we are all still amazing! We must learn to see that we are already perfect.
How do you embrace the parts you dislike? It all starts with self-acceptance. When I accept myself just as I am many things are possible. When we accept the full range of our emotions, we see more of the beauty in life.
Opening ourselves to all of our emotions is scary for many. This is because we use overuse drugs to keep our emotions in check. We do this so we can work. These drugs keep us from feeling negative emotions. However, it also keeps us from feeling positive ones too.
That’s the problem. The short-term use of medication becomes an addiction. This prevents us from living the wholeness of life. We cannot achieve wholeness unless we can accept our emotions.
Once you’ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.
― George R.R. Martin
We can do is to practice both self-compassion and self-care. These are nurturing and healing activities that make the journey more enjoyable. Then we can return to our original state of innocence. That which exists even before we are born.
The authentic hero is flawed. The genuine test of a champion is not whether he can triumph, but whether he can overcome obstacles – preferably of his own making – in order to triumph.
― Garth Stein
We are perfectly flawed, but these are what make us unique. This makes us already perfect. And, so we must view ourselves with our mind’s eye. Embracing our nature, we can see the value and beauty of who and what we are. In doing so, we behold our inner beauty. For beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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