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Self-Care Tools ― Being Good To Yourself

Self-care is an essential part of our overall health and wellness.  So, we’ve put together some tips to help rejuvenate your life.

Health is one of our most important assets. It affects every aspect of life.  We cannot function properly when we not healthy and fully present.  Self-care isn’t selfish when done in moderation. As a result, Self-care actions are an important part of a well-rounded health and wellness strategy. In fact, these tips help to make our lives less stressful and more enjoyable.  Here are the categories.  Some of these tips could fit in more than one group.

1. Emotional
2. Functional
3. Mental
4. Physical
5. Social
6. Spiritual

1. Emotional Self-Care Tips

    • Above all, learn to meditate and practice it every day.  Here is a simple two-step form of meditation.
    • Writing inspirational notes and Affirmations is a powerful way to boost your attitude.  Put them on sticky notes.  Then, place them in your car, in your lunch, on the mirror and refrigerator.  So, in this way, you benefit twice.  You benefit when you write them and then again when you read them.
    • Another great exercise is to read your affirmations out loud.  And end with the phrase, “I love you.”  Hearing these words is a way of self-healing and nurturing your soul.
    • Practice “stream of consciousness writing.  Some call it “morning pages”, but it’s the process of Automatic Writing.  And, it will open your creative mind.
    • Talk with friends.  Do it in person if you can.  However, a phone call is better than no contact at all.
    • Create and write in your journal. This probably the least expensive and most valuable tool.  It’s a powerful tool for spotting trends and making positive changes.
    • Create art to express your emotions.
    • Spend time with pets from time to time.  If you don’t have one go to a pet store or animal shelter.
    • Finally, if you see someone in need, please reach out and help them.  Be a good person.

Bottom line.  Build an emotional fortress.  Use the tools above like bricks.

“You can’t turn love on and off like a light switch, no matter how hard you try. All you can do is wall it off, one brick at a time until you’ve created an impenetrable fortress around your emotions. And once that fortress is built, you camouflage it so well that even you can’t see it anymore.”
― Katherine Allred, The Sweet Gum Tree

2. Functional Self-Care Tips

    • First, budget your time.  Use your smartphone to schedule your tasks.  Also, estimate the time each task will take.  This will save you time in the long run.  Brainstorm and Include all your routine tasks like shopping and the cleaning of your living space.
    • In addition to your “to do” list, make a list of things or habits you don’t want to do.  The idea here is to substitute good healthy behaviors for bad habits.  For instance, when you shop for snacks, seek out healthy fruits and avoid the bakery.  Or, stop checking voice or work email after a certain time.
    • Speaking of shopping, put a paper list on your refrigerator.  This way you can keep track of the things you need.  Then when you shop, stick to your list.  Don’t buy impulse items.  This will also help you to stay on budget.
    • By the way, be sure to schedule the other things on your self-care list from the other categories.
    • If you don’t have a financial plan or budget, learn about it and create one.
    • And, once again, don’t forget to write in your journal.
    • Use the strategy known as “eating the frog.”  This means to do the hardest things first.  This way, you get the things you dislike out of the way.

The main idea here is organization.  Plan out the practical things to make things easier.

“You can have many great ideas in your head, but what makes the difference is the action. Without action upon an idea, there will be no manifestation, no results, and no reward”
― Don Miguel Ruiz

3. Mental Self-Care Tips

    • Play an online memory or trivia game.  While you have fun you are creating new connections in the brain.  This keeps our mind healthy.  The exercise of your memory is also a great way to improve your attitude and basic reasoning ability.
    • Explore and learn other languages.  Use Duolingo or some other online source.  Learning a new language also rewires the mind.
    • Take a one hour break from the internet and social media.  Almost everything works better when you unplug them and let them rest.  It’s the same for your mind.  When you unplug it gives you space to “think” and “feel”.  In turn, this helps you become fully present.  If you are going through something emotionally difficult, sometimes you need to be with these emotions.  Otherwise, they come up when you don’t want them to.  For instance, when you are trying to sleep or engage in problem-solving.
    • Add something positive to your routine.  Read a new book or interesting articles. You’ll find some here.
    • Give away clothes and other things you don’t use.  Let stuff go.  Erase old emails.  In other words, reduce your mental and physical clutter.
    • Learn and practice self-compassion.

Its all about emotional equilibrium.  But remember that life also has highs and lows.  You need to be in a place emotionally where you can take the full range of your emotions.

“It is possible to stop the mental chatter, regain your emotional balance and live free of stress and anxiety when you create a new habit of daily energetic self-care using the four powerful tools in Nurturing Wellness through Radical Self-Care.”
― Janet Gallagher Nestor

4. Physical Self-Care Tips

    • A schedule is a good tool.  Make sure it serves you. However, don’t let your schedule become your master.
    • Drink a glass of water with lemon every day.
    • Walk at least 250 steps every hour.  And, do at least one type of stretch every day.
    • Follow a workout routine that focuses on durability.
    • Take short cat naps
    • Play your favorite music mix.  And, find new songs to add to this mix.  Explore other genres of music.  Music also rewires and mind to keep it younger.
    • Find reasons to see the bright side of life.  Seek reasons to laugh.
    • Learn and practice breathing exercises.  After all, breath sustains us.
    • Meditate every day at least 20 minutes.  Many people meditate twice a day and so can you!
    • Get a message.  Let someone else work out the kinks.
    • Additionally, don’t forget your health care appointments.

“True enjoyment comes from activity of the mind and exercise of the body; the two are ever united.
―Wilhelm von Humboldt

5. Social Self-Care Tips

    • Write “thank you” notes.  It used to be common practice, but they are rare.  For that reason, they are more valuable than ever.  The same for handwritten letters.  These are even rarer and so more valuable.
    • Set a daily time budget for the use of social media.  Social media is a great tool, but it’s not a substitute for real human interaction.
    • Nothing can take the place of face to face interaction. So, get out in the physical world.   Find free meeting events on topics that interest you. Go to concerts. Meet new people.
    • Contact friends regularly just to see how they are doing. Use the Extending love fearlessly exercise.  In fact, it’s one of the best ways to build confidence in expressing emotions and ideas.
    • Volunteer.  This is a physical way to show gratitude.

“If you are on social media, and you are not learning, not laughing, not being inspired or not networking, then you are using it wrong.”
― Germany Kent

6. Spiritual Self-Care Tips

    • You guessed it.  Meditation is at the top of the list.  Learn the simple two-step Beginning Meditation method. Practice it every day.  You’ll experience the results immediately.  By all means, learn as many types as you can.  Learn other methods like mindfulness meditation.   In addition,  Forest Bathing and Tree Grounding are also methods anyone can use.  They reduce stress and connect us with nature.  But, don’t stop. Practice the chanting of Mantras.  Learn Japa or Transcendental Meditation and then the Siddhis.  We call all of these ancient processes, spiritual exploration.  What’s more, you can use these tools to create your spiritual path.
    • Enhance your critical thinking skills.  Use the scientific process to research spiritual matters. It is also important to realize Emotional checks are a critical part of an effective research process.  And, the study of Logical reasoning is another critical essential toolset.  It helps you to sort out the facts from fiction.
    • Avoid organized religion especially Western organized religion.  In general, many mistake religion for spirituality or spiritual practice.  Moreover, it’s the difference between doctrine and process.
    • Volunteer.  Give yourself in service of those in need.  Furthermore, this will return more than you give.
    • Learn about and practice the Eightfold Path of Yoga.  You’ll find it’s much more than a form of exercise.
    • We’ve mentioned this before, but simply be a kind person.  So, if you can help someone in need, please do it.

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
― Mahatma Gandhi


Self-care is doing things that enrich our lives.  It isn’t things that are a burden.  Find your mix of what works.  Everyone is different.  And, if something doesn’t work, change it or delete it.

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