Creating lasting value in your life is about developing wisdom. Many believe we find the path to wisdom in understanding the lesson of these experiences.
Lessons of Wisdom
Your ability to learn depends upon the level of your awareness. That being the case, some of these strategies or experiences won’t make sense unless you expand your awareness. Only then will you be able to understand their value. Perhaps the ones that don’t immediately resonate with you are the ones you need the most. You may even realize you’ve missed the opportunity to learn some of these.
Don’t be discouraged. We all start out in different places. And, remember, we all make mistakes and miss opportunities to learn and grow. In a way, this too is a part of our learning process. Keep doing the right things and you will progress. Help others along the way. Copy the link to this article to your favorites and review it as a reminder.
You’ll see this list contains a range of different things. It involves inner work, the philosophy of life, tools for development and practical organization. If you apply these to your life it will make a difference.
1. Learning to Observe your Thoughts
You will spot purple cars everywhere if you are constantly looking for them. Similarly, you will find opportunities if you are thinking of finding new opportunities. So, you will also be angry with life if you are constantly seeking out life’s irritations and frustrations.
Therefore, it is so important to learn how to observe and direct your thought life. Above all, this is one of the important life lessons. If you don’t learn how to do this, then you are more likely to involve in harmful thought patterns. As a result, you’ll miss all the beauty and opportunities that exist. If you don’t learn to do this, you’ll have a hard time applying the other lessons of wisdom. Before you can direct your thoughts, you must learn to observe without judgment.
“The ability to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence.”
— Jiddu Krishnamurti
2. Guard Your Health and Wellness
Our ability to experience life lives in our ability to maintain our physical and mental health. We are all in a different place regarding our health and wellness. Just because you are the perfect picture of health doesn’t mean you aren’t important. So more and more people conclude that durability should be the goal. Our health and wellness affect our path.
“One, remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Two, never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it. Three, if you are lucky enough to find love, remember it is there and don’t throw it away.”
— Stephen Hawking
3. Learn to Walk Your Own Path
This is perhaps the most important decision of your life. Walking your own path is the opposite of following a religion. Religion is dogma concerning a supreme being and what may happen after you die. Some include and rules for governing behavior. It’s within a cloak of fear of eternal punishment for those that disagree and an eternal paradise for those who submit. Whereas, walking your own path is spiritual exploration. This has nothing to do with religion. It involves the application of spiritual technologies to expand awareness and open the doors of consciousness. These spiritual technologies stand up to the test of science as having repeatable common experiential phenomena.
What are Spiritual Technologies? There are many ways to list these processes. We like this simplified method. Some of these technologies could be in more than one category:
- Firstly, the application of logical reasoning. This includes both deductive and inductive reasoning. In addition, there are several “logical tools” to sharpen your ability to discern fact from fiction.
- Another important tool is The Enneagram Personality Profile. This tool enables us to understand the mechanisms of Ego, personality, and instincts. It’s also a doorway to understanding the virtues and gifts of the spirit.
- Progressions of seated meditation. This includes a range from Basic Mindfulness Centering exercises through Japa Meditation and the Siddhis of Patanjali.
- Next, progressions of moving meditation. For instance, this progression includes several methods of energy collection, like Forest Bathing, Qigong, and Tai Chi, Tei Ke.
- Lastly, there are a number of Healing modalities, including but not limited to Pejut, Reiki, and Shiatsu. This modality also includes awareness and consciousness expansion pathways such as Lucid Dreaming and the Shamanic Journey or Guided Meditation.
4. Be a Survivor Instead of a Victim
Choosing the role of the survivor is another vital decision. So, you can see life in two ways. Either the Universe is on your side or it is against you. If you think the Universe is against you, then it’s easy to take the role of the victim. And, as a victim, you feel entitled to a pity-party. And, if others don’t join in your pity-party they are against you too. The victim is always looking for ways to be a victim. As a victim, you’ll never be a survivor and never the champion.
In order to move from the role of the victim, you must stop placing blame for life’s random acts of chaos. To do this, you must learn to course-correct your thought patterns. You must learn to observe your thoughts and then redirect your thinking. For example, if you are driving a car and someone pulls out in front of you, don’t automatically think they are out to get you. Instead, think they must be in a hurry. Or, perhaps they are late for work or an important meeting. Don’t take everything that happens as a personal attack. Don’t automatically place ill intent to the actions of others. If you don’t know the basic mindfulness meditation practice. Learn it and use it. Learning to be a survivor and a champion instead of the victim.
The benefit is that your day easier, less stressful. You’ll enjoy things more. You’ll see opportunities for helping others. Hanlon’s razor is an aphorism which expresses this idea perfectly.
“Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity.”
— Robert J. Hanlon
5. Learn to Give and Share
If you don’t learn to give and share as a child, the world suffers. It’s vital we learn we should not always the main character on the stage of life. This can be a hard lesson, especially if you were the center of attention as a child. Adults with this mindset believe everything and everyone is here to support their leading role. Eventually, this life lesson will force itself to be learned. They fail at something big. Worse yet, when they lose they take others down with them. Don’t let this be you. Instead, adopt a beginner’s mindset to promote learning and sharing.
Realize being a good supporting actor is good for you and others in your circle of influence. Let others take the staring role. Allow your role to change with the ebb and flow of circumstances. Share and give others the center stage.
Likewise, learn to give away that which you seek. That’s the way to plant seeds which will lead to a harvest. For example, one of the best ways to deal with loss is to be of service to others. Do what you can in your sphere of influence. Look at it this way. You can be a giver or a taker. Givers tend to be happier than takers. Ask yourself do you take more than you give? Guess what? As an overall “giver” you and everyone around you will benefit. As a giver, you’ll begin to enjoy things more. You’ll see opportunities for helping others.
“If you send out goodness from yourself, or if you share that which is happy or good within you, it will all come back to you multiplied ten thousand times. In the kingdom of love there is no competition; there is no possessiveness or control. The more love you give away, the more love you will have.” — John O’Donohue
6. Avoid Tunnel Vision
There are three outlooks on life, pessimistic, optimistic, and realistic. Being locked into any one of these will cause tunnel vision. Or, more precisely, the lack of proper vision.
In the pessimistic outlook, you’ll see everything resulting in its worst possible outcome. It’s not a bad thing to assess the risk of things. However, if you get caught in the pessimistic spiral could lead to depression. So, learn how to observe your thought life. The moment you catch yourself racing after some apocalypse, stop. Take a deep breath. Find the place of equilibrium.
Being an eternal optimist also presents problems. The optimist ignores the problems. Or, tries to drown out problems by pretending. Thinking happy thoughts isn’t always the way out. Sometimes you need to face the music. Realize that things don’t always work out. Look at things realistically. Find the equilibrium of life in its ups and downs.
As a realist, you must find the courage to embrace both the optimistic and pessimistic outlooks. Otherwise, you will miss opportunities contained in both success and failure. Learn to maintain equilibrium. Write a list of things you are grateful for in your life. Put this list somewhere you can see it. This will help you to change the trajectory of your thoughts and emotions. Constantly ask yourself what is should I be learning?
And, you guessed it. The benefit is that your day easier, less stressful. You’ll begin to enjoy things more. You’ll see opportunities for helping others. All three outlooks have their place. Don’t get stuck in one. Don’t get stuck in any one perspective. Live life using all three roles.
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” — William Arthur Ward
7. Communicate with Honesty
If honest communication is the root of happiness, then poor communication root of unhappiness. You must cultivate the courage to communicate honestly when it is possible and practical. So, it’s vital you learn to discern when it is both practical and safe to communicate honestly. There are situations where you need to use restraint in communication. However, with your inner circle, you must cultivate the ability to communicate honestly. You cultivate honesty by being honest.
Communication is tricky. Assuming your communication is always understood the way you intended is a mistake. So, always solicit feedback to ensure that the meaning of the message is understood. Remember most people aren’t listening to hear but to respond to what you are saying. That means most of their computing power isn’t on receiving the intent of your message. People can’t read your mind or your expectations. If your message isn’t understood then you’ll always be disappointed. See the above point about being the victim.
This is one of those realizations that will take the pressure off. It will make you easier to live with. You’ll find that you will be disappointed less often when you take responsibility for communicating your realistic expectations. Don’t confuse simple choices with bias and prejudice. Learn to spot in yourself and others.
8. Overcome Decision Paralysis
The idea that the Universe will send an omen or sign to confirm every decision leads to decision paralysis. Waiting for a divine sign leads to many disappointments. That’s because the Universe doesn’t care whether you buy broccoli or green beans. They either don’t get the omen or interpret it wrong.
To be sure, synchronicities and omens do occur. However, more often than not life’s decisions in our hands. After all, how are we to acquire lessons of wisdom if we don’t make our own decisions. So, if you don’t get a sign for an important decision. Perhaps it’s a sign the Universe wants you to decide. The more major decisions the more experience you gain. And, believe it or not, your life less stressful when you take responsibility for your own decisions.
In relation to “decision paralysis” is learning the importance of taking calculated risks. However, don’t confuse risky behavior with calculated risks. Learn the difference. Unnecessary or unreasonable risks should be avoided. The study of logical reasoning and related tools will help to discern the distinction.
At our core, we are essentially choice makers. Making decisions and choices involves a risk assessment. Learn how to estimate probabilities from possibilities. Again, the study of logical reasoning key to this ability. Live boldly but not stupidly. Remember you are human and you will make mistakes. However, learn from your mistakes. Learn the lesson and choose more wisely. This is one of those experiences of life that repeats infinitely.
The benefit here is twofold. If your risk works out you win. If you lose, you learn a valuable lesson to help you next time.
“Analysis paralysis is an epidemic that cripples countless dreams and great ideas. Be swift, decisive, and always move forward!” — Matthew Loop
9. Avoid Perfectionism and Comparison
Perfection is the holy grail of any master. The master wants his servants to strive for perfection. They want us to strive for perfection because it is nearly impossible to attain but keeps us focused on the task. The master would have us “believe” we call can attain perfection even though it is unrealistic. So, we compare ourselves to perfection and find we fall short. We are in prison. Comparing our current state to someone or something else is what drives the cultural narrative of consumerism. It places you in a prison of everchanging and unrealistic values.
For instance, we see an advertisement that shows the benefits a product can bring. It shows a beautiful person having a beautiful life. And, you want this too, but you must buy this product. So, we compare the difference in our situation. And, as a result, are seduced into buying the product. Learn to question the cultural narrative. Learn you already are perfect in your state of imperfection. In our consumer-driven culture, this is definitely one of the things you’ll need to master. Don’t let yourself be seduced by advertising or propaganda. By the way, this tactic isn’t new. It was perfected by Western Organized religion to sell you all sorts of things from an Afterlife to the cleansing of your guilty conscience.
The benefit of this is almost immediate. You’ll find self-acceptance. And, you’ll buy less stuff. Instead, you’ll value people more than things.
“You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.”— Jodi Picoult
“Comparison is the death of joy.” — Mark Twain
10. Learn the Value of Time
Time is our most valuable possession. When you go to work for someone you allowing them to purchase your life’s greatest asset. But most people treat their time as something meaningless. We certainly don’t know exactly how much time we have. So, you need to be aware of its value. Be mindful of how you use it. Treat your time like it is gold. Guard it closely. The biggest time-waster is most of what is on the TV. For example, the news is a thief under the guise of providing useful information. Instead, it’s mostly propaganda keeping you a customer in order to sell advertising. By far the biggest time thief is religion. It has perfected groupthink manipulation on a massive scale.
Ask yourself the question, does TV, the News or Religion make your life better? Or, does it fuel anger? Cut these out and you’ll find immediately that life easier, less stressful. You’ll begin to enjoy things more. You’ll see opportunities for helping others.
11. Learn to Let Go
Time passes. But that doesn’t mean we don’t have regrets. It also means it’s easy not to let go of pain from past trauma. Everyone says all you need to do is to forgive. However, they don’t tell you it’s not a one-time thing. Sure the pain was often caused by one person or one event. But, the act of forgiveness is a continual process to let go of that memory or pain.
There are two great teachers, the world and your heart. And, there are two great lessons, we live and we die. Above all, there are two great experiences, love and loss.— Guru Tua
It’s hard to think of loss as a great experience. But, in a sense, real happiness would not be possible without it. It helps us appreciate and savor the things that really matter. Working through the process of letting things go helps us grow. It’s a perspective you need to learn how to embrace.
They say that the concept of closure is reserved for people who have never really suffered. There’s no such thing as forgetting it. You may always have some regret and doubt about your loss. You may always second guess yourself. If only you had said this, or tried that.
The same applies to the “things” we accumulate. Don’t let the things you own actually own you. So, learn to de-clutter your life. Don’t fall into the trap of consumerism. Let go of things that simply take up space. There are a number of resources on this subject. Find one the resonates. There are always opportunities in our life to practice this, so this must obviously be one of the important things to learn. And, this applies to friends and especially spiritual relationships and teachers.
12. Thrive Where You Are
To live a fulfilled life one needs three ingredients. These elements are courage, hope, and vulnerability. Add when you add these three together and you get fulfillment. Above all, fill your life with hope and allow yourself to become vulnerable. This will open your eyes to social injustice. As a result, it will give your heart direction. You’ll find a place and space in your sphere of influence to contribute. Learn to live a courageous life.
The more courageous you are, the more you will awaken. Thus, your conscience will also grow. This will show you where you can make a difference.
If we are present, we can see these lessons of wisdom. If we are asleep, we will find ourselves repeating the same situation. So, when this happens ask yourself “what’s the lesson”?
If this article resonates, there are more on our blog. Also, you may be interested in learning about our blended learning process. This is our curriculum which we use to teach several mind-expanding tools. It also aligns the Hero’s Journey. This is the term Joseph Campbell gave the pattern of consciousness development. Our learning process is available in two forms. You can take part in the virtual learning module or in our workshops.
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