integrate ego soul and self how to balance head and heart

How to Balance Ego Soul and Self

Balancing Ego, soul, and self is one of the primary goals of spiritual development. It makes mindfulness and presence a part of your routine mindset.  You can learn how to do it.

How To Balance Head and Heart

Our heads and our Heart correspond to our Ego and our soul.  Consciousness is the conduit to the Spirit or self, who is the eternal entity that experiences life.  These terms are synonymous with the Observer.  It is the Observer that we speak to inside our heads. It’s the entity that watches or observes our lives.  There is something else sages and philosophers call the “source.” The Source is that spark that creates and sustains life.

The Head and the Heart have unique channels for receiving energy and hearing messages from the Observer and Source. The Heart speaks to us through our emotions and intuition, and the head talks through reason and common sense.  We need both because they receive different messages.  The self, Spirit, or Observer watches the different energies and priorities but does not interfere.

Achieving a balance between head and Heart is the goal.  A balance of power between the two is the deal situation. However, the Ego or Head dominates most people’s lives because that’s how culture trains us.  The modern culture values Head over Heart, Ego over Soul.

Ideally, we want to live fully present, always connected with the Source.  When we do this, the Observer can come forward instead of allowing Ego to direct the thinking.  To achieve this, we need to balance all three elements, Ego, soul, and self.

Connecting to “Source” is hard to explain. It is because it is beyond the experience of the senses.  Dr. Wayne Dyer refers to Source as the Spirit (1). He considered himself a Sorcerer because he meditated regularly and bathed in this transcendent place of peace.  He connects with “source” or pure consciousness to engage his intuitive gifts.

Maharishi Mahesh Yogi talked about Source like the sap within a flower (2).  The colorless fluid makes the stem green and blossom in different colors.  So, the sap is the Source of the flower’s form and essence.  The sap is everywhere in the plant, from the roots and the stem to the flower. The roots get their energy from the ground.  In his analogy, the root is the link between the ground or transcendent and our conscious awareness.  Connecting to “source” creates a connection to our intuition.

Another way to look at it is through the analogy of the mansion.  Imagine you own an estate but never go beyond the hallway. It’s like living with the Ego in total control.  You don’t know what you are missing because you have no frame of reference for it.

Integrating Ego, Soul, and Self

Balance between head and heart connecting with source

It’s important to realize that our Ego is not our enemy. Our Ego is simply the tool that connects our minds to our Spirit. It’s a complex mechanism, but we need to be careful not to become fixated or identify ourselves with the instrument of perception.

The influence of social programming fills our culture.  It comes through all forms of media, including the internet, radio, TV, and religion. This propaganda is harmful to both our minds and our soul. It can be a dominant force to control our minds by appealing to our Ego.  Thus, adding to the imbalance of our Ego.  We need a healthy mind and soul to achieve the proper balance.  We need to integrate the Ego, soul, and self to achieve a balance of energies.

Without our Ego to filter perception, we would receive too much input from our bodies and environment. But, it is vital to examine the programming to make sure we balance it. So learning how to achieve a balance between head and Heart isn’t always easy to achieve.

Several things reinforce the Ego’s control; the roles we play, the self-talk we repeat, and the beliefs we assert.  These are all filters that limit our perception.  We also project them into the world whether or not we realize it. It’s a part of non-verbal communication that is always going on.

The Laws of Attraction

We see how our self-talk relates to the law of attraction, but in a way that we desire. For example, unhealthy self-importance makes one self-centered and attracts the same type of people like a magnet.

Examining and re-programming your thought-life is necessary because we receive messages from several sources that project unhealthy values and judgments. When we learn to understand our Ego’s elements, we can see how it is programmed. We can see the difference between it and the soul, and then you will open your awareness to greater possibilities.  If not, you are negating the effects of affirmations.

Connecting to “source” is important because it helps us see our self-talk patterns.  Once we can see the negative self-talk, then we can change it.

How to Balance Head and Heart

Assess Your Paradigm

First, we need to assess the balance of our current state.  Ask yourself the following questions. It will show you to what extent one dominates the other, and then we will know what we should do to regain a healthy balance.

    • Do answers to problems come to you out of the blue?
    • Do you have these leaps of intuitive ideas or solutions?
    • Or do you need to sit and reason things out?
    • Are you more comfortable finding answers with a process?
    • Are you more inclined to research things before you decide?
    • Or do you go with your “gut” instinct?
    • Perhaps you avoid making decisions and see how things work out?
    • Do you need some time alone to allow the answers to your questions “come to you?”

Be honest with your assessment.  Otherwise, you won’t be working toward the correct balance.

Causes of Imbalance

If you are like most people, you expose yourself to large quantities of cultural programming.  The goal of this programming is to sell you things from cars and deodorants to religious ideologies. It’s the reason you need to question the cultural narrative.   It uses psychological techniques that prey on our fears and insecurities.

They don’t want you to reason things out.  Nor do they want you to reject their sales pitch based on gut-level intuition.  Above all, they want you to make an emotional decision prompted by fear or anger.  It motivates you to make impulse purchases.  As a result, advertisers want to “dumb down” the customer to make selling easier.

And, they certainly don’t want you connecting with the Source.  Your Source has the real answers to your most profound questions.  It has “real answers” for your existential fear.  Whereas religion has counterfeits, it wants to sell you.

The educational system centers on memorizing things that will make you a good employee for the people who are selling you stuff.  So this favors the analytical mind or the Ego.  Most people find their intuitive side is well below their analytical.  So, our analytical thinking is dominant.  Our Heart is secondary or silent.

Both the Head and Heart voices can benefit from programs that strengthen their abilities.  However, most people will benefit from a program that emphasizes learning to hear the Heart’s voice.  It is where you will find your wisdom.   The following are things to keep in mind as you develop your program to strengthen your intuition and analytical abilities.

Balancing The Analytical and Intuitive

Head and Heart

As mentioned above, we do not value intuition in our modern culture.  Many of our greatest thinkers use their intuition as their analytical abilities.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” — Albert Einstein

First, you will need to dedicate some effort to enhancing your analytical and intuitive abilities.   We suggest using tools such as logical reasoning, spotting logical fallacies, and the truth-seekers axioms.

Being able to think freely without negative programming showcases one of the greatest paradoxes.  We use the mind’s power to go beyond the boundaries of the mind.  For example, when we exceed the limits of our expectations teaches us how to balance head and Heart.

Our intuition needs more than nurturing. It is often asleep, so you need to learn how to awaken it.  Learning basic mindfulness meditation techniques can let you encourage yourself no matter where you are.  Ideally, we need to spend quality time outdoors.  If possible, in the wilderness untouched by the hand of man. Nature is a sanctuary.  You can use active mindfulness techniques here with excellent results.

Also, we recommend the Japanese wellness technique known as forest bathing.  It will increase your connection to nature.  And we are a part of nature.  So, this strengthens our relationship with the Source. Last, learn more specialized “grounding” techniques like tree grounding.  These nurturing tactics will refresh the connection to your intuition.  Another tool we recommend is a spiritual journal.  Your intuition will speak to you once you write.  It is by far the best and most underrated spiritual tool.  You can do this almost anywhere.

In Conclusion

If you are reading and thinking about it, you are already on your way to finding your balance.  When you seek a balance between head and Heart, remember to add one thing at a time.  This way, you won’t overcompensate.  Learning to connect with “source” is vital to our health and wellness.  Achieving a balance of Ego, Soul and Self is possible.

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(1) Wayne Dyer, The Power of Intention
(2) Maharishi Mahesh Yogi,
(3) Joseph Campbell & Joseph Campbell’s book The Hero’s Journey, Wikipedia

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