Balancing the needs of our ego and our soul is one of the primary goals of spiritual development. You can learn how to do it.
Balance Between Head And Heart
We have connections to “Source” through both our consciousness and our soul. Our heads and our heart correspond to our minds and our Spirit. These are synonymous with consciousness and soul. The Observer of our experience is our source.
The Head and the Heart have unique channels for receiving energy and hearing the messages from our source. The heart speaks to us through emotions and intuitive leaps. The head speaks to us through reason and common sense. We need both because they receive different messages.
Achieving a balance between head and heart is the goal. A balance of power between the two is the deal situation. However, the Ego or Head dominates the life of most people. This is because that’s how the culture trains us. The modern culture values Head over Heart, Ego over Soul.
Connecting to “source” is hard to explain because it is something beyond the experience of the senses. Dr. Wayne Dyer refers to Source as the Spirit (1). He considered himself a Sorcerer because he meditated regularly and bathed in this transcendent place of peace. He connects with “source” or pure consciousness to engage his intuitive gifts.
Maharishi Mahesh Yogi talked about Source like the sap in a flower (2). The sap makes the stem green and flower in different colors. So, the sap is the source of the form and essence of the flower. The sap is everywhere in the plant from the roots and the stem to the flower. The roots get their energy from the ground. In his analogy, the root is the link between the ground or transcendent and our conscious awareness. Connecting to “source” creates a link to our intuition.
Another way to look at it is through the analogy of the mansion. Imagine you own a mansion but never go beyond the hallway. This is what it’s like when you live with Ego in total control. You don’t know what you are missing because you have no frame of reference for it.
Our Ego is A Tool
It’s important to realize that our ego is not our enemy. Our ego is simply the tool that connects our minds to our spirit. It’s a complex mechanism, but we need to be careful not to become fixated or identify ourselves as being any other than an instrument of perception. We need a balance between head and heart, the Ego, the head voice, and the Soul, the heart voice.
The influence of social programming fills our culture. It comes through all forms of propaganda. It fills Radio, TV news, and religious programming. This propaganda is harmful to both our minds and our soul. It can be a dominant force to control our minds by appealing to our Ego. Thus, adding to the imbalance of our Ego. We need a healthy mind and soul to achieve the proper balance.
Without our ego to filter perception, the would receive too much input from our bodies and our environment. That being said, it is important to examine the programming to make sure we balance it. So learning how to balance head and heart isn’t always easy to achieve.
Several things reinforce the control of the Ego; the roles we play, the self-talk we repeat, and the beliefs we assert. These are all filters that limit our perception. We also project them into the world whether or not we realize it. This is a part of the non-verbal communication that is always going on.
The Laws of Attraction
We see how our self-talk relates to the law of attraction, but in a way that we don’t want it to. For example, an unhealthy posture of self-importance makes one self-centered and attracts the same type of people like a magnet.
Examining and re-programming your thought-life is a necessary task. This is because we receive messages from several sources that project unhealthy values and judgments. As we learn to understand the elements of the ego we can see this programming. We can see the difference between it and the soul, then you will open your awareness to greater possibilities. If not you are negating the effects of affirmations.
Connecting to “source” is important because it helps us see the patterns of our self-talk. Once we can see the negative self-talk, then we can change it.
How to Balance Head and Heart
Assess Your Paradigm
First, we need to assess the balance of our current state. Ask yourself the following questions. This will show you to what extent one dominates the other. Then, we will know what we should do to regain a healthy balance.
- Do answers to problems simply come to you out of the blue?
- Do you have these leaps of intuitive ideas or solutions?
- Or you need to sit and reason things out?
- Are you more comfortable finding answers with a process?
- Are you more inclined to research things before you decide?
- Or do you go with your “gut” instinct?
- Perhaps you avoid making decisions and just see how things work out?
- Do you need some time alone to allow the answers to your questions “come to you?”
Be honest with your assessment. Otherwise, you won’t be working toward the correct balance.
Causes of Imbalance
If you are like most people you receive large doses of cultural programming. Most of this is directed at selling you things from cars and deodorants to religious ideologies. This is the cultural narrative you need to learn to question. They use psychological techniques that prey on our fears and insecurities.
They don’t want you to reason things out. Nor do they want you to reject their sales pitch based on gut-level intuition. Above all, they want you to make an emotional decision prompted by fear or anger. This gets you motivated quickly to buy what they are selling. As a result, advertisers want to “dumb down” the customer.
And, they certainly don’t want you connecting with the source. Your source has the real answers to your deepest questions. It has answers for your existential fear. Whereas, religion has counterfeits it wants to sell you.
The educational system centers on memorizing things that will make you a good employee for the people who are selling you stuff. So this favors the analytical mind or the Ego. Most people find their intuitive side is well below their analytical. So, our analytical thinking is dominant. Our Heart is secondary or silent.
Both the Head and Heart voices can benefit from programs that strengthen their abilities. However, most people will benefit from a program that emphasizes learning to hear the heart’s voice. This contains the wisdom of their intuition. The following are some things to keep in mind as you develop your program to strengthen both your intuition and analytical abilities.
Tools to Balance The Analytical and Intuitive
As mentioned above, we do not value intuition in our modern culture. Many of our greatest thinkers use their intuition as much as their analytical abilities.
The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. — Albert Einstein
First, you will need to dedicate some effort to enhancing both your analytical and intuitive abilities. You can improve your analytical mind with the study of logic. Start this journey with the study of logical reasoning, spotting logical fallacies, and logical axioms. But, at the same time logic has a way of opening up your subconscious. This is because it exposes us to misuse of argument.
This shows us one of the greatest paradoxes. We use the power of the mind to go beyond the boundaries of the mind.
Our intuition needs more than nurturing. It is often asleep and needs to be awakened. Learning basic mindfulness meditation techniques can let you nurture yourself no matter where you are. Ideally, we need to spend quality time outdoors. If possible in the wilderness which has not been touched by the hand of man. Wilderness is a sanctuary. You can use active mindfulness techniques here with great results.
Also, we recommend the Japanese wellness technique known as forest bathing. This will increase your connection to nature. And, we are a part of nature. So, this strengthens our connection with the Source. Last, learn more specialized “grounding” techniques like tree grounding. These nurturing tactics will refresh the connection to your intuition. Another tool we recommend is a spiritual journal. Your intuition will speak to you once you write. This is by far the best and most underrated spiritual tool. You can do this almost anywhere.
If you are reading and thinking about it, you are already on your way to finding your balance. When you seek a balance between head and heart, remember to add one thing at a time. This way you won’t overcompensate. Learning to connect with “source” is vital to our health and wellness.
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(1) Wayne Dyer, The Power of Intention
(2) Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, tm.org/enlightenment
(3) Joseph Campbell & Joseph Campbell’s book The Hero’s Journey, Wikipedia