It is vital to take time to daydream, think, and contemplate. It gives our intuition time and space to speak to us. However, many modern cultures do not see the value of solitude. See why it’s essential.
“It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; It is easy in solitude to live after our own, but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Why We Need Time to Contemplate
Above all, we should not confuse time alone or seclusion with loneliness. We are creatures who need to spend time alone. It’s essential to have time for ourselves. Time alone is a basic form of self-care. When we are alone without a plan, it gives us time to normalize. It’s a way of connecting our creative and intuitive minds.
There are many things to contemplate. It gives us a chance questions like, are we alone in the Universe? What happens to my consciousness when I die? These types of questions are necessary to give our lives perspective. Contemplating these kinds of questions is a way of sparking our creative minds.
The problem is our modern culture does not value personal time. It looks at contemplation as a waste of time. It doesn’t appear that anything productive is taking place. The cultural narrative is all about being 100% you being productive 100% of the time. It is this constant drive for productivity that is unhealthy for our minds and our bodies.
We lose connection with our natural creative and intuitive abilities when we don’t make time to contemplate. Our intuition wants to speak to us, but we are too busy most of the time. So, spending time alone gives our intuition time and space to talk to us.
The Value of Solitude
Spending time alone, especially in nature, is good for our mental and physical health. Spend time forest bathing or meditating in a garden. It is a simple way to connect with our essence. We are, after all, part of nature.
Solitude and nature go together. The wind and the environment bring much-needed healing to our souls. We can become so caught up in the commercialized culture that we forget who and what we are.
Whenever possible, we conduct our introductory meetings near forests or gardens. The seclusion one experiences in nature will calm and focuses the mind. We cannot overstate the value of spending time alone. It heals the soul, the mind, and the body.
When we take time to contemplate, our bodies also have a chance to speak. If we stop long enough, things will surface that we have kept hidden because our mind focuses on daily tasks. Connecting with ourselves and our nature is the actual value of solitude.
How Loneliness and Solitude Differ
Being alone does not make you lonely. You can be lonely in a crowd. So, the lack of people around you does not make you alone or isolated. Seclusion is not the same as loneliness.
“Loneliness is not the experience of what one lacks, but rather the experience of what one is… It is ironic how much of our freedom we expend on power — on conquering death, disease, and decay, all the while concealing from each other our carefully buried loneliness, which if shared, would deepen our understanding of each other.” — James Leonard Park, Essay on Loneliness of Spirit
There are three kinds of loneliness, social, emotional, and spiritual loneliness.
1. Social loneliness is when you are without reliable relationships. The lack of people to share interests with, on whom you could rely if your car broke down, etc. It is a lack of trust.
“I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” ― Robin Williams
2. Emotional loneliness stems from feeling like you have no meaningful connection or relationships. You don’t have a significant other, spouse, or partner. You feel distant from everyone, even your family.
“The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.” ― Mother Teresa
3. Existential Fear. The loneliness that comes when we avoid the fear of death. We know this as spiritual or existential loneliness. This loneliness is a sense of longing. Social connections are not enough to fulfill this need. So, no matter how good our relationships are, you can still feel like something is missing.
“Fear isn’t the desire to avoid death or pain. Fear is rooted in the knowledge that what you recognize as yourself can cease to exist. Fear is existential.” ― John Scalzi, The Ghost Brigades
Religion cannot fill this void. It does provide a counterfeit distraction it calls the afterlife. But, this is merely trading one fear for another. Instead of facing the fear of death, we become obsessed with the potential loss of afterlife rewards. Now we get to fear hell.
You can still feel ‘empty’ and ‘lonesome.’ If this sounds like you, realize you cannot fill this need through personal relationships. You can only quench it by following your heart. It’s the inward quest that Joseph Campbell calls the Hero’s Journey. It’s what spiritual exploration is all about. And it is one of the first major spiritual lessons.
Different Kinds of Contemplation
Subject Oriented Contemplation is where you ponder about a particular subject. It could be a person, place, or thing. You aren’t trying to solve anything; you are simply thinking about it or them. It is sometimes referred to as “aesthetic contemplation” or “higher contemplation” because you are thinking about the positive aspects of the subject.
Buddhism says there are six worthy kinds of contemplation. They are contemplating Buddha, the Law, the Buddhist Order, the observance of the precepts, the benefit of almsgiving, and rebirth in heaven or reincarnation.
Chaotic Contemplating is where you allow the mind to wander without any plans. It is the most common type of practice. It opens the mind to the power of intuition which can lead to eureka moments of clarity. Albert Einstein is a proponent of this kind of contemplation.
Theological Contemplation is pondering or thinking about a particular aspect of doctrine. For example, Catholic theology restricts this type of contemplation to the subject of God. Other religious sects are not as restrictive.
How Spiritual Exploration Differs from Religion
Many people don’t understand that spiritual exploration is nothing like religion. Religion is dogma centering on three things. First, who or what might have created the universe. Second, what may happen after you die. Third, rules of integrity for governing behavior. This doctrine revolves around fear and reward. There is the fear of eternal punishment for those that disagree and an eternal paradise for those who believe.
Whereas, Spiritual exploration has nothing to do with doctrine or dogma. It involves using spiritual tools/technologies to expand awareness and open the doors of consciousness. These spiritual technologies stand up to the test of science. They exhibit repeatable common experiential phenomena.
The value of Solitude is immediately evident when developing your path. We all need to have time alone to think, meditate, and practice. When you do this, spiritual loneliness fades away. The inner quest is the answer to spiritual loneliness. And the ancient tools for expanding awareness and opening the doors to higher states of consciousness are the right tools for this quest.
These processes are a collection of proven methods for exploring consciousness. We call them spiritual technologies. They help us expand awareness and unlock the gifts to reach higher states of consciousness.
These tools differ significantly from religion. They do not require faith or belief in any religious doctrine. Anyone can use these processes to develop their full potential. All you need to do is follow the process, and it’s just like following the recipe for baking a cake. If you combine the right ingredients in the right way and you get something delicious.
We select the best of these ancient methods for our blended learning method. These processes are time-tested by generations of use, and they stand up to the rigorous tests of science. They are repeatable processes, and several produce measurable effects on our physiology. These changes include increased brainwave coherence, lower heart rate, and increased skin resistance. Changes like this prove these partitions of consciousness differ significantly from waking, dreaming, and sleeping.
We divide these tools into four major categories:
Everyone can use these methods to create their unique spiritual path, and you can start with any of these methods. The more of them you use, the faster your progress.
Our modern culture does not understand the value of solitude. It programs us to keep busy all the time. Taking time to contemplate is a waste of time rather than a necessary part of our emotional and physical health.
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(1) Joseph Campbell & Joseph Campbell’s book The Hero’s Journey, Wikipedia