“It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson ✫*¨`*✶♪.¸¸.✻ღ
We are creatures who need to spend time alone. We need time to normalize. It’s important to have time to think and contemplate. Our intuition wants to speak to us, but most of the time we are too busy. So, solitude gives our intuition time and space to speak to us. This is the essence of solitude.
Finding a way to spend time in nature is a must. Spend time forest bathing or meditating in a garden. This is an almost immediate way to connect with source, with nature. Whenever possible we conduct our introductory meetings near forests or at gardens. The solitude and comfort of nature are both calming and focusing on the mind.
Solitude does not make you lonely. You can be in a crowd and feel very lonely. So, the lack of people in your immediate surroundings does not make you lonely. Solitude is not loneliness.
“Loneliness is not the experience of what one lacks, but rather the experience of what one is… It is ironic how much of our freedom we expend on power — on conquering death, disease, and decay, all the while concealing from each other our carefully buried loneliness, which if shared, would deepen our understanding of each other.” – James Leonard Park, Essay on Loneliness of Spirit
There is perhaps three different types of loneliness, social, emotional and spiritual loneliness.
- Social loneliness is when you are without reliable relationships. The lack of people to share interests with, on whom you could rely if your car broke down, etc.
- Emotional loneliness stems from feeling like you have no meaningful connection or relationships. You don’t have a significant other, spouse, or partner. You feel distant from everyone, even your family.
- But, there is another type of loneliness. This is known as Spiritual or existential loneliness. This loneliness is a sense of longing that cannot be fulfilled through social connections of any kind. So, no matter how good our personal relationships are, you can still feel like something is missing. You can still feel ‘empty’ and ‘lonesome’. If this sounds like you then the problem won’t be found in personal relationships. It can only be quenched by following your heart into the realm of spiritual exploration. This is one of the first major spiritual lessons.
Spiritual Exploration Versus Religion
Many people don’t understand that spiritual exploration is at the opposite end of the spectrum of religion. Religion is dogma concerned with who might have created the universe, what may happen after you die and rules of integrity for governing behavior. This doctrine revolves around fear and reward. There is the fear of eternal punishment for those that disagree and an eternal paradise for those who do “believe.” Whereas, Spiritual exploration has nothing to do with doctrine or dogma. It involves the application of spiritual tools/technologies to expand awareness and open the doors of consciousness. These spiritual technologies stand up to the test of science as having repeatable common experiential phenomena.
Solitude is an important element in developing your own path. You need time alone to think, meditate and practice. When you do this the spiritual loneliness fades away. The inner quest is definitely the answer to spiritual loneliness. And the ancient spiritual technologies for expanding awareness and opening the doors to higher states of consciousness are the right tools for this quest.
What are Spiritual Technologies?
There are many ways to list these processes. We use the following simplified method. Some of these technologies could be in more than one category:
- Firstly, the application of logical reasoning. This includes both deductive and inductive reasoning. In addition, there are several “logical tools” to sharpen your ability to discern fact from fiction.
- Another important tool is The Enneagram Personality Profile. This tool enables us to understand the mechanisms of Ego, personality, and instincts. It’s also an important doorway to understanding the virtues and gifts of the spirit.
- Progressions of seated meditation. This includes a range from Basic Mindfulness Centering exercises through Japa Meditation and the Siddhis of Patanjali.
- Next, progressions of moving meditation. For instance, this progression includes several methods of energy collection, like Forest Bathing, Qigong, and Tai Chi, Tei Ke.
- Lastly, there are a number of Healing modalities, including but not limited to Pejut, Reiki, and Shiatsu. This modality also includes awareness and consciousness expansion pathways such as Lucid Dreaming and the Shamanic Journey or Guided Meditation.