when i accept myself

When I accept myself just as I am, then I can change

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” — Carl R. Rogers


Self-acceptance is not the same as ego-edification. It is being able to see both your positive and negative traits.  When I accept myself just as I am, then I have the ability to observe myself and my life without judgment. It’s the ability to see your behavior, decisions and the personality and instincts.  It’s the default settings of Ego which cause you to act out.  Understanding these mechanisms gives us the opportunity to observe and then choose rather than just “acting out”. It is from this vantage point of reference you are able to make desired changes in thinking and behavior.


Ego-edification is the state where one is being driven exclusively by the default settings of your ego. I From this vantage point, you think and behave in ways that are automatic reactions.

You find yourself saying to yourself, “wish I hadn’t done that.”  You find yourself overreacting.  It feels like you aren’t in control.  And, that is the truth.  Many people who live in this state say things like, “that’s just me. I can’t change who I am.”  And, to some extent this is true.  However, we all have the ability to change if we are in the right place, the right frame of mind. It takes inner work.

when I accept myself

So, Ego identification is the first step toward the ability to be more in control of the mechanisms of personality and instinct. This is the first real step in inner work.  Observing the thoughts and feels of your own Ego.  The intellect is a powerful tool.  If we use it to consciously observe our thoughts and feelings.  Then, move from reacting to choosing our actions.  We can choose to direct thoughts and feelings.  We can choose positive over negative.  This gives us a whole new perspective on everything we observe.

The Enneagram Personality Profile

The Enneagram Personality Profile is a system which enables you to identify and predict the thought processes of personality and instincts. At its core, the Enneagram is a mapping of the psyche divided into various traits and characteristics.  It uses various methods including questionnaires to plot the default settings of personality and instinct.  It is scientifically verifiable.  And, many healthcare professionals use it with clients.

The historical origins of the system are in some dispute.  Many different people continue to contribute to its use and development. Óscar Ichazo (born July 24, 1931) is one of the major developers. He is the founder of the Arica School, in Bolivia. George Ivanovich Gurdjieff (born March 31, 1866) of what is now Armenia is another early developer of the Enneagram.  Today many schools exist which are inspired by his eclectic spiritual approach.  The Gurdjieff Foundation is a variety of organizations based on the ideas of George Gurdjieff.   Some people claim the roots extend back to early Greek and Roman philosophers.  There are a number of contemporary resources with various specialties.

Enneagram and the Observer

The Enneagram is one of the basic tools we employ in our blended learning process.  We use it so that participants can begin to understand the difference between Ego and Observer.  You see, you aren’t your Ego.  It’s just a necessary default tool which connects our body to consciousness.  So, you don’t get rid of your Ego.  Rather, you learn to move from the place of fixation to observation. When I accept myself as the Observer instead of the mechanism of personality I have the ability to choose.  The Enneagram is just one of the tools for spiritual exploration.

What are Spiritual Technologies?

In essence, spiritual technologies are methods of developing your potential.  In short, these mental tools focus on expanding awareness and consciousness.  And, these processes stand up to the test of science – repeatable and measurable. Anyone can use them. It’s like baking a cake. If you follow the directions, you get something delicious. We call the practice of these processes Spiritual Exploration.

Of course, there are several ways to list these processes. It’s important to note some of these tools could easily be in more than one category:

  • Logical reasoning is one of the first tools we study. This includes the companion tools, spotting logical fallacies and logical axioms.   Above all, these are essential tools for any spiritual explorer.  They are able to sharpen your ability to discern fact from fiction.
  • Another important basic toolset is the “inner work” methods like The Enneagram Personality Profile.  These help us to understand the mechanisms of Ego, personality, and instincts. They also provide a doorway to understanding the virtues and gifts of the spirit.
  • Progressions of seated meditation are the heart of the practice.  This includes a range from Basic Mindfulness Meditation through Japa Meditation and the Siddhis of Patanjali.
  • Next, progressions of moving meditation. For instance, several methods of energy collection, like Forest Bathing, Qigong, and Tai Chi.
  • Awareness and consciousness expansion pathways such as  Lucid Dreaming and the Shamanic Journey or Guided Meditation.
  • And last but not least, several healing modalities, such as Reiki, and Shiatsu.
In Conclusion

If this article resonates, there are more on our blog.  Also, you may be interested in learning about our blended learning process.  This is our curriculum which we use to teach several mind-expanding tools.  It also aligns the Hero’s Journey.  This is the term Joseph Campbell gave the pattern of consciousness development.  Our learning process is available in two forms.  You can take part in the virtual learning module or in our workshops.

While you are here please also check out our page FAQ for information about our mission.  And, please consider donating to support our mission of providing these ancient spiritual development tools.

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