Accepting the full range of our emotions is essential to our mental and physical health. Learning to balance all our emotions is the key to our health and wellbeing. Why is this so difficult?
The Key to Wholeness
Everyone wants to live a life filled with happiness. It’s a concept you find at the center of many ancient traditions. To be happy, we must be whole. It seems like a simple thing, but for many people this is difficult. We learn to link happiness with situations instead of living a state where happiness underlies everything.
The key to happiness is to accept who we are wherever we are. That means we must accept all aspects of ourselves. The key to wholeness starts with the perspective of a realist. We learn to adjust our direction based on the situations but remain grounded while we are doing it.
Obstacles to Accepting Your Emotions
Emotions are a part of the human condition. Experiencing and accepting the lows and highs are a normal part of life. In the past, people learned to cope with their emotions by mirroring their family and friends. You typically worked with your family. So, sharing your emotions with them was a part of life.
Your family and friends helped you adjust to and through various stages of growth and the hardships of life. As we entered the early modern age, this became more and more difficult. By the end of the industrial revolution changed this forever. In the contemporary period, the corporate culture has eliminated this traditional support system.
The Mind is Always Engaged
It’s far too easy in our modern culture to occupy our mind every waking moment. Our culture trains us to be busy. Many people are overwhelmed by day-to-day tasks, worries, and social pressures. Showing any negative emotions in a task-driven environment is anathema. Sure, it’s important to be positive, but suppressing all of your emotions is destructive. It’s the root of depression.
Many people learn to “fake” positive emotions because it is an expectation of the culture. Accepting your emotions would make you vulnerable. It’s a way to fit in. But at what cost? We lose the key to wholeness. We learn to segregate feelings.
The modern society that was supposed to afford us more free time is just the opposite. Our minds are engaged nonstop. The handheld device becomes a new obsession instead of a tool.
We forget how important for us to day-dream, contemplate, and get in touch with what is going on inside. Our mind needs time to reset. We need to meditate. For that reason, we need to do this daily to maintain our health.
The Corporate Culture
As we mentioned above, the corporate culture has changed our lives. The corporate culture pervades life. This is a culture that demands we show a positive smile even when we are suffering emotionally. We learn to temper all emotions. Showing genuine social affection, like hugging, is strictly forbidden. Because this would place the corporation in jeopardy of a lawsuit.
It’s a culture that demands we guard our words, actions, and emotions so as not to offend their boundaries. It is more important for us to guard the assets of the corporation than to act like human beings. Accepting your emotions is unacceptable behavior especially if they are communicated in any way.
So, we are subject to training conditioning us to become monotone at work. This training spills over into our personal lives. And, we seek prescription drugs to numb out the negative. In this way, we can continue to be productive in the workplace. We become robots living a monotone existence. So, life becomes meaningless. And, we lose perspective by not being able to accept the full range of our emotions. It becomes a rarity. This trend is unhealthy in the long-run. Even though this feels like a comfort zone, it’s a trap. We begin to build a habit of suppressing our feelings. When we resist or ignore our emotions they can fester, and this is unhealthy. You can’t medicate away your emotions forever.
Why Spiritual Exploration is Important
We are spiritual beings. And our emotions are a part of who we are. One of the common threads we have is the desire to seek the unknown. This is the inner quest we fulfill with spiritual exploration. This requires us to experience the full range of emotions.
Because of the above obstacles, we are unable to accept the full range of our emotions. We need to take the time to do things that will help us regain and retain our mental and physical health. The spiritual journey emphasizes this need. Learning to turn inward and allow yourself to “feel” everything has always taken courage. This is true now more than ever.
Learning to be Kind to Ourselves
The first key to this aspect of the journey is learning to be kind to yourself. Provide time and space to be with yourself and allow yourself to feel your emotions without judgment. Engage in self-care. To understand what’s going on inside you need to embrace our emotional center. Sometimes this center is turbulent and we block it off because it is uncomfortable, but this is the key to wholeness.
This includes seeking professional help if you need it. Remember, we lack the traditional support systems and free time to sort things out on our own. So, mental health professionals can help us to get through the hard spots.
Learning to Be Mindful
The second key to getting in touch with your emotions is learning techniques for mindfulness meditation. These aren’t accessories, they are necessary tools to help you cope with the increased stress of the modern world.
One good strategy is to use modern technology to remind us. Set a calendar reminder at least once a day with a keyword like, “meditate or mindfulness break.” Then, use your willpower to take a break. Once you’ve done this for a while you’ll begin to look forward to this mental oasis. That’s when your mindfulness and meditation breaks will begin to pay off.
Feeling your emotions is easier for some personality types than others. Those who understand the Enneagram Type 4 know that they can become fixated on their emotions. On the other hand, type 9 would be more inclined to ignore their emotions as a strategy to “make it” through the day.
Enneagram Personality Profile
We highly recommend the Enneagram Personality Profile. It’s a part of the basic tools of our blended learning process. This tool can help you identify your burdens and also guide you in learning to lay them down. The Enneagram Personality Profile is a set of scientifically validated questions. This tool will enable you to identify your default personality and instinct settings.
Accepting your emotions is a natural thing that we must re-learn in this modern world.
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Joseph Campbell & Joseph Campbell’s book The Hero’s Journey, Wikipedia
Early Modern Age, Wikipedia
Industrial Revolution, Wikipedia
Contemporary Period, Wikipedia