“Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.”
— Wayne W. Dyer
See Things Differently
We want things to get better. So, it’s a tendency to try and change things. But this often leads to frustration. People and situations resist our desired outcomes. The next time you find yourself facing this dilemma, reverse your focus. Instead of trying to change things, first change the way you observe them. Change the way you think about them.
This will give you a new perspective. To do this, you need to overcome two things. We live in cultures that bombard us with propaganda. So, we need to overcome this programming to be able to gain a new perspective.
The second thing is our Ego. Our personality likes to control what we think in order to maintain control. If we are to see things differently, we need to understand our self-talk and remove any negative scripts. The Enneagram of Personality is the best tool for finding the default self-talk scripts for your personality type. Your personality isn’t a bad thing. It’s a necessary tool of consciousness, but few people learn when to turn it off.
Change the Way You Look at Things
This is a rather simple strategy, but it’s hard to implement. That’s because routines run our lives. Routines make things easier. We don’t have to think consciously about what we need to do. But routines make it easy to slip into bad habits. If we want to see things differently, we need to start with ourselves.
There are two common bad habits. The first is the hypnotic effect of being entertained. When we are entertained we lose ourselves, we lose time. This is a waste of the opportunities within life. The second common bad habit is reducing our social interaction with people who have a different point of view.
How do you change the way you look at things? It takes just three steps. The first step is always the hardest one. But trust me you’ll soon find that it was worthwhile.
First ― Limit TV and Internet
The goal is to limit daily use of TV, internet and social media to two (2) hours per day. Yes. It’s a hard step, but you’ll save on average about four (4) hours a day, or twenty-eight (28) hours a week.
With all the time you’ve saved find a used bookstore. Go into the bookstore and buy the oldest and cheapest book they have in the genres of philosophy, religion, or history. Now, sit down. Read it for at least an hour. Use a pencil or yellow marker. Make notes in the margins. Think about. You are expanding your awareness by creating new neuro-connections, sparking new ideas.
Second ― Talk to People Face to Face
Take the old book you’ve just read and go to a local coffee shop. Go in and introduce yourself to someone new. You may need to interrupt them on their computer, but that’s okay. The scary part is over.
Now that you know one another, ask them about their opinion on what you’ve read. Encourage them to turn off the TV and read it. We also suggest making a follow-up meeting. But, don’t forget the main purpose of step two is to find someone new to talk with about the book.
Third ― Repeat the First Two Steps
The results will surprise you. In less than a month you’ll discover that connecting and doing research is more enjoyable than passively being entertained. You’ll find your mind hungers to learn and share. You’ll change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change you in response.
Two steps seem too simple. It’s actually three, if you count repeating as a step. But, the simple things in this exercise will change you. You will see things differently.
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Joseph Campbell & Joseph Campbell’s Book The Hero’s Journey, Wikipedia